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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE 5 Secrets of Great Relationships

5 Secrets of Great Relationships

By Gideon in Blog, MARRIAGE on May 22, 2017

Have you ever seen a couple that’s been together a long time, but still looks hopelessly in love? Do you wish you could ensure your own relationship lasts that long and remains loving?

If you want to be in your golden years and still hold hands, cuddle and get along, there are some things you need to know.

The five secrets of great relationships can be put to work in your life, and they can help you become happier, healthier and stronger as a couple.

So, how do some couples manage to stand the test of time and still smile, flirt and generate a feeling of love the whole world can notice? Here are some of the best-kept secrets of couples who really have it together:

1. Communication 

Solid, two-way communication is perhaps the most important of the five secrets of great relationships. If you’re not comfortable enough in your relationship to approach topics with openness, you have a problem.

Both parties in a relationship need to feel comfortable saying what’s on their minds without fear. Disagreements are perfectly OK, but sound communication skills to work through them with a positive outcome are vital.

2. Honesty 

This is essential for good communication, and it’s even more important in a good relationship. Being honest about feelings, wants, needs and desires is simply a must for longevity without regret or resentment.

Both parties should feel comfortable saying what’s in their hearts.

3. Common interests 

Making room for common interests and some couple time are important parts of fostering love that lasts and the longevity of a relationship.

This is among the most important of the five secrets of a great relationship because time together helps forge bonds that last.

Busy couples can still make some time by carving out “date nights,” taking up hobbies together or just taking out time at the end of a day to talk, cuddle or watch the sunset. It doesn’t matter what is done as long as it’s together as a couple without distractions.

4. Self-development

As important as couple time is, so is development of self-interests. Strong couples tend to have strong partners. This means the individuals in a relationship have taken the time apart to develop into the people they truly want to be.

Couples that have loving, trusting and solid relationships don’t have to be together every second of the day to remain connected.

Foster self-fulfillment and each half of the team can blossom. The end result is a stronger couple if self-development is carefully balanced with time together.

5. The bedtime rule 

There really is something to that old saying about never going to bed angry. Couples that understand the five secrets of great relationships know how important it is to get disagreements out in the open and resolved as quickly as possible.

While fighting is never an enjoyable moment, “fair fighting” can help relationships grow and couples grow stronger. To fight fair, stick to the topic, keep anger in check, state feelings clearly and listen to your partner’s input. Work together to resolve the issue.

As you work on incorporating the five secrets of great relationships into your life, remember that all couples have their ups and downs.

Sometimes things go swimmingly, but there are other stretches when you really have to work hard at being good together.

If you want to be one of those “old couples” who still holds hands and enjoys gazing into each other’s eyes, every bit of effort will be worth it. The five secrets of great relationships can help you along the way. -Nick Morris, Spain.

WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE 10 TYPES OF HUSBAND

10 TYPES OF HUSBAND

By Gideon in Blog, MARRIAGE on December 5, 2016

1. BACHELOR HUSBAND: He does things on his own without consulting his wife. Hangs out a lot with friends more than wife. Not serious about marriage life.
2. ACIDIC HUSBAND: He is always boiling like acid and always angry, violent, moody, dominating and very dangerous.
3. SLAVE HUSBAND: Want to be treated like King and treat Wife
like a Slave. Likes wife to perform old traditional respect
and hates being called by their first name.
4. GENERAL HUSBAND: Husband for every woman. Loves
and cares for girlfriends more than his wife. Likes giving money to girlfriends and have more female friends.
5. DRY HUSBAND: Very moody and stingy and
don’t consider wife’s emotions and the relationship enjoyable.
Have no sense of humor.
6. PANADOL HUSBAND: Uses wife as problem solver only loves wife when needing something from her. He’s clever and knows wife’s
Weaknesses and capitalize on that and gets relief from wife.
7. PARASITE HUSBAND: Lazy and only loves wife for the sake of
money. Use wife’s money on girlfriends. Not initiative and does not help wife with house responsibilities.
8. BABY HUSBAND: Irresponsible, childish and can’t make decisions on his own without asking his mother or relatives; compares wife to relatives and runs to them always if something goes wrong.
9. VISITING HUSBAND: Not always at home come as a visitor Provides family all material things but have no time for them.
10. CARING HUSBAND: Caring and loving. Provides material and
Emotional needs and makes out time for family. Guides home spiritually. Very responsible and treats wife as partner and helper.

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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE UNCONTROLED EXPECTATION

UNCONTROLED EXPECTATION

By Gideon in Blog, MARRIAGE on November 21, 2016

Marriage is all beautiful and ought to be glorious, but can also be very though and turn sour if the couple (or one) is possessed with high expectation in all things, such will be driven with the spirit of assumption in almost all the time and the other (partner) will be suffering silently as if he or she is born with hidden or un-surfaced disability and the victim can also be possibly view as not knowledgeable, unintelligent, and un-spiritual enough.
Within a very short time, frustration will un-noticeably set in and gradual loss of relationship appetite will be the result.
So be careful to understand that all human are born with either visible or non visible weakness and christians are no exception.
So with the Spirit of God upon you, combined with agape love, always ready to impact on your spouse and not expecting so much from him or her! Only appreciate what he or she has grace to do in your relationship, accepting that it may be his/her ability from God for now and soon you continue to witness a gradual turn around in your life and marriage.
Paul Apostle said “But godliness with contentment is great gain. 1 Timothy 6:6”
Don’t ever forget to always appreciate God for giving him or her to you for a beautiful marital life and God bless you.

WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE LOOSING IS GAINING

LOOSING IS GAINING

By Gideon in Blog on July 29, 2016

Have you experience breakthrough, Miracles and great victory before or are you waiting for one? The fact and truth about life is that, trails are the true envelope of success! People of Faith are not eroded with the magnitude of their problems and challenges, but fix their eyes on Jesus and His words ! You only need to work on your intimacy with God knowing that Faith that doesn’t take something from you is not Real Faith. I believe very soon you are going to celebrate a brand new miracle in your life in Jesus name!
Hear this “He gives POWER to the weak, And to those who have no might He increases strength-Isaiah 40:29”.
And Paul apostle counseled the brethren through his kingdom life style and said, “Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecution, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am Strong. 2 Corinth 12:10”.
And Job in his affliction took a firmed decision because he knew that God is not the author of evil, he said “But He (God) knows the way that I take; When He has tested me, I shall come forth as GOLD-Job 23:10” Praise God! won’t you rather endure and wait for your harvest that will come very soon and sudden ! It is your turn to celebrate the power of almighty God and nothing….not even demons….not curses will hold you back anymore in the name of Jesus !
Wait and Listen to this, every long awaited prayers request will be answer this month in the name of Jesus…..amen! Please HOLD ON! DON’T GIVE UP!! Your loosing today is a great gain tomorrow! God bless you…Share this with all your friends now and give them Hope for their life!!!- Dr Oyedepo G O.

WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE 7 Traits that separate good from great Marriage!

7 Traits that separate good from great Marriage!

By Gideon in Blog, MARRIAGE on July 24, 2016

1. Great Marriages always have contentment but never have complacency. Contentment means choosing to always be thankful for what you already have whether it’s a little or a lot. Great couples have an “attitude of gratitude” for all they’ve already got, but they refuse to get on autopilot and stop dreaming new dreams together. They’re content, but never complacent. They’re thankful, but always moving forward together to reach new heights.

2. Great Marriages don’t have any secrets. Trust is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage, and strong couples have learned that secrets in marriage can be as dangerous as lies. When a husband and wife choose to communicate about everything (the good, the bad and the ugly), it brings a level of trust and intimacy that can’t be achieved any other way.

3. Great Marriages don’t have an “Exit Strategy.” Commitment leads to trust which leads to intimacy which leads to great marriages. The word “divorce” needs to be completely removed from your mind and your vocabulary if you want to create the stability necessary for a great marriage.

4. Great Marriages prioritize Fun. Laughter is the soundtrack of a great marriage. They plan and prioritize activities that will create fun and happy memories. Those activities don’t need to be expensive or elaborate, but they need to be deliberate.

5. Great Marriages keep an optimistic outlook. Happy couples face the same struggles as unhappy couples, but they choose to face those struggles with a hopeful perspective and an optimistic outlook. Always choose to see the best in each other and in the world around you.

6. Great Marriages don’t live on leftovers. We’re all sometimes guilty of giving our spouse our “leftovers” after we’ve given our best energies to our job and other demands. Vibrant couples always strive to give each other the very best of themselves.

7. Great Marriages have a foundation of faith. Couples who pray together are much more likely to stay together. I believe that God is the only “perfect” part of a marriage, so the more of Him you have in your relationship, the more perfect it will become!

–Originally published on Patheos.

WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE MY HUSBAND, I HAVE BEEN UNFAITHFUL!

MY HUSBAND, I HAVE BEEN UNFAITHFUL!

By Gideon in Blog, MARRIAGE on July 18, 2016

She joined her husband in the bedroom. Their children were asleep.
He was busy reading the newspaper.
She looked at him.
“My love, there’s something I need to confess” she began to speak.
“What is it?” he asked without looking at her, his face still glued to the newspaper.
“I have been unfaithful” she said.
He looked at her with fiery eyes.
He slapped her.
For the first time in their marriage, he slapped her.
“How could you woman?! Seventeen years of marriage, four children and this is what you do to me? You cheat on me? Foolish? How can you stoop so low?” he shouted.
He got up from the bed. He started pacing as he continued shouting, “You are the one who always tells me to keep off women. Out of respect, I keep females at a distance and you on the other hand do this?”
He was just about to pounce on his wife and beat her. The sting of unfaithfulness enraged him.
A knock was heard on the door.
Their first born, Maria, a fourteen year old girl walked in their bedroom.
“Mom, dad; is everything OK?” Maria asked.
“Get out! Get out!” he shouted as his daughter.
“It’s OK Maria, Dad and I will sort this out. Go to sleep” She told their first born daughter, Maria.
Maria walked out of their bedroom.
“Who is it? Who have you been unfaithful with? Give me his phone number. He will know today who I am” he shouted trying to grab his wife’s phone.
She humbly took her phone.
“Show me his number. Show me his face. Filthy animal who is snatching my wife” he shouted some more.
“This is the man I have been unfaithful with” she said giving her husband her phone.
Her husband looked at the screen of her phone and saw his own face and phone number.
“Me?!” he asked puzzled looking at her.
“Yes, I have been unfaithful with you. I have been unfaithful to God because I have been so busy loving you. In my effort to try being a good wife, I have forgotten God” she said.
He sat down on the bed, confused.
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“When you met me, I was so devoted to God. In fact, you used to tell me that the most important reason you chose me as your wife was because of my devotion to God. I loved the Godly man you used to be. We would pray and long to have a Godly family together. I remember the days I would fast and pray and tell God that if He blesses me with a good job, I will dedicate my career to Him. God did bless me, God blessed you, God blessed us. We did so well professionally, we got good money, we could afford a good wedding. We got married” she explained.
He looked at her intently.
She continued, “The first few months of our marriage, we would pray as a family, go to Church, have fellowships, worship and Bible Study; but slowly, we stopped living by that Scripture that says as for me and my household we will serve the Lord. We started having children who we failed to raise in the Godly way. With success, we changed our friends. We found the born again friends boring. We started worshiping money, success and materials. Look at us now, we live in a big house but God is absent. You started taking me to unGodly places to have fun, we started drinking too much, our children ashamed by our drinking”
He looked away from her.
“In order to please you, I changed too; thinking that being a good wife means tagging along with everything you do. I didn’t confront you when you started going astray, I didn’t pull you back to God, I got lost with you. So lost, that I started becoming proud, shallow, self-centered; all along thinking I am being a good wife. But this is not me. I have changed so much from the woman you found me. We both have changed much”
He looked at her.
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“All these, The good house, the good meals we eat, the money we have, the comfortable life; they have made us forget the God who gave them to us. I am nothing without God and I feel ashamed that I have abandoned the God responsible for all I am and have. We have started having troubles in our marriage, because the Lord is no longer building our love, we are doing it on our own and we will fail if we keep on like this”
She reached out and touched his hand.
“I want to go back to the woman I used to be. A woman after God’s own heart. I miss the peace that God gives, I miss worship, I miss reading the Word, I miss going to Church and fellowship, I miss meditating, I miss praying with you. What does it profit me to gain a good marriage yet lose my soul, my God? I am going back to God. Only as a wife submitted to God, will I be the best wife to you and the best mother to our children. He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God, but I cannot bring favour to you if I continue being disconnected from God. I want my spiritual life back. I want God back in our home, our marriage, our family”
He started breaking down in tears. His spirit convicted.
He held her tightly in his arms.
“I am sorry. I am sorry for going astray and taking you with me. You chose to marry me because you thought you are marrying a Godly man. I miss being that Godly man. Marriage shouldn’t be a stumbling block in our walk with God. The thought of you cheating on me ripped my heart apart, I cannot even begin to imagine how God feels when we are unfaithful to Him. God having blessed us this much and we turn our backs on Him. At the thought of you cheating on me I was filled with rage, yet God patiently looks at us in our unfaithfulness desiring us to go back to Him. I want to go back too. I want more in my life than these earthly things, I want God. I want the God of my youth. I am so sorry for slapping you”
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That night, they knelt down and repented, rededicated their lives and marriage to God. The Prodigal Couple came back to God.
The next morning, they with their children.
God returned back to that home, because that couple returned back to God.
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