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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE WHERE ARE WE GOING?

WHERE ARE WE GOING?

By Gideon in All of God, Blog on May 25, 2018

…….Billy Graham ( November 7, 1918- February 21, 2018).
He went to be with the Lord this morning. He was 99 years old.

In January, leaders in Charlotte, North Carolina invited their favorite son, Billy Graham, to a luncheon in his honor.

Billy initially hesitated to accept the invitation because he struggles with Parkinson’s disease. But the Charlotte leaders said, ‘We don’t expect a major address. Just come and let us honor you.’ So he agreed.

After wonderful things were said about him, Dr. Graham stepped to the rostrum, looked at the crowd, and said,

“I’m reminded today of Albert Einstein, the great physicist who this month has been honored by Time Magazine as the “Man of the Century”.

Einstein was once traveling from Princeton on a train when the conductor came down the aisle, punching the tickets of every
passenger. When he came to Einstein, Einstein reached in his vest pocket. He couldn’t find his ticket, so he reached in his trouser pockets. It wasn’t there.

He looked in his briefcase but couldn’t find it. Then he looked in the seat beside him. He still couldn’t find it.

The conductor said, “Dr. Einstein, I know who you are. We all know who you are. I’m sure you bought a ticket. Don’t worry about it.”

Einstein nodded appreciatively. The conductor continued down the aisle punching tickets. As he was ready to move to the next car, he turned around and saw the great physicist down on his hands and knees looking under his seat for his ticket.

The conductor rushed back and said, “Dr. Einstein, Dr. Einstein, don’t worry, I know who you are; no problem. You don’t need a ticket. I’m sure you bought one.”

Einstein looked at him and said, “Young man, I too know who I am. What I don’t know is where I’m going.”

Having said that Billy Graham continued, “See the suit I’m wearing? It’s a brand new suit. My children, and my grandchildren are telling me I’ve gotten a little slovenly in my old age. I used to be a bit more fastidious. So I went out and bought a new suit for this luncheon and one more occasion. You know what that occasion is? This is the suit in which I’ll be buried. But when you hear I’m dead, I don’t want you to immediately remember the suit I’m wearing. I want you to remember this:

“I not only know who I am. I also know where I’m going.”

May your troubles be less, your blessings more, and may nothing but happiness, come through your door.

“Life without God is like an unsharpened pencil – it has no point.”

And may each of us have lived our lives so that when our ticket is punched we don’t have to worry about where we are going.

Billy Graham died this morning February 21, 2018. He knew his final destination is Heaven.
Do you know your final destination?
If not, please repent of your sin and receive Jesus into your heart now.
“..…..Now is the accepted time, behold, today is your day of salvation” 2 Corinthians 6:2.

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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE Jerusalem Chosen By God

Jerusalem Chosen By God

By Gideon in All of God, Blog on May 4, 2018

I found this article online and I think it’s worth sharing with you as the church is preparing for the Rapture of saints !

“UN are hypocrites, loyal to lslam, I don’t need their approval to do the right thing-Trump”

Donald J. Trump speaks to Media

President Trump in an interview by an American leading media made some speech regarding his declaration of Jerusalem as Israel capital.
He said:
My coming into power brought an end to the unofficial defeat of ISIL , the total annihilation of Islamic extremists in Syria which warranted the withdrawal of Russia troops by Putin. This were done just within a year after I was sworn in.
The UN was there witnessing the massacre of the Christians across the globe and did nothing, terrorism was on the rise and they(UN) did nothing.
But barely four days of my declaration of Jerusalem as Israel’s capital, the UN summoned a security summit within the shortest notice.
I have said it before and am saying it again that UN’s gathering is like a gathering of market women’ which after they’re done deliberating and decisions are made; it ends right there in Geneva.
The UN seat is filled with Muslims and people who are loyal to the Arabs, they are all hypocrites and cannot be trusted,Jerusalem declaration was long over due and they know it but they kept quiet .i do not need anybody’s permission to do what is right, Trump said.

WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL ABOUT JERUSALEM ?
Making Sense Of All The Controversy
At the very heart of Bible prophecy is ISRAEL – and at the heart of Israel is JERUSALEM. God has made it abundantly clear in His Word that He has a covenant promise to the Jewish people and to their land. Not only did He promise to bring them back to their promised land, but He promised to restore their capital as it was from the beginning…
Zechariah 8:7-8
Thus saith the Lord of hosts; Behold, I will save my people from the east country, and from the west country; And I will bring them, and they shall dwell in THE MIDST OF JERUSALEM: and they shall be my people, and I will be their God, in truth and in righteousness.
In 1948, the “impossible” happened. Israel became a nation overnight. The Arab nations immediately attacked Israel to wipe it out. While outnumbered in every way, Israel won the war and actually gained more of their land. Yet Jerusalem was still under foreign control. During the Six Day War in June 1967, between Israel and the Arab states of Egypt, Jordan, and Syria, Israel not only conquered the Sinai Peninsula, Gaza Strip, West Bank, and Golan Heights, BUT ALSO REGAINED THE CITY OF JERUSALEM!
This was another amazing impossible event, but further proof that God’s Word will come to pass. And yet, the battle has not stopped. Hell is determined to make God a liar and is doing everything to destroy God’s plans for Jerusalem. Jerusalem has been attacked 52 times, captured and recaptured 44 times, besieged 23 times, and COMPLETELY DESTROYED TWICE. But God has a plan for Jerusalem, and it will come to pass

THE PROPHET ZECHARIAH HAD SOMETHING IMPORTANT TO SAY ABOUT JERUSALEM…

Zechariah 12:2
“Behold, I will make JERUSALEM a CUP OF TREMBLING unto all the people round about, when they shall be in the siege both against Judah and against Jerusalem.”
THIS IS AN AMAZING PROPHECY!
God is going to make Jerusalem a cup of “reeling, staggering, shaking, intoxication” to all the people. In other words, people will act like they are drunken over this city, as they boast against it and threaten to fight it, even though they can’t even stand on their own. Have you ever tried to reason with someone who is drunk? They don’t think rationally, they see things from an intoxicated view.
Drunks have their “senses impaired” by the alcohol, dominated by an intense feeling; drunk with rage. And it’s as if most of the world has their “senses impaired”; because they can’t think rational about Jerusalem. They are “dominated by an intense feeling – drunk with rage” concerning Israel’s right to exist, and Jerusalem as its capital.
Their thinking is irrational, it’s just plain ridicules, it makes no sense at all. However, the world better sober up, because they are not merely fighting against a group of people; they are fighting against the Word of the Lord God! Read what else Zechariah’s prophecy says…
Zechariah 12:3
“And in that day will I make JERUSALEM a BURDENSOME STONE for all people: all that burden themselves with it shall be CUT IN PIECES, though all the people of the earth be gathered together against it.”
God will make it a hard, difficult, tough, strenuous, exhausting stone for all people. All who try to move it will injure themselves with gashes and lacerations. The Lord is warning to not even mess with this city; it’s bigger than any drunk man or “strong man” could ever handle…

NOW, PAY CLOSE ATTENTION TO THIS IN THE DAYS AND WEEKS TO COME!
But some may ask, why Jerusalem, John? What’s the big deal about Jerusalem. Well, that’s really quite simple. Jerusalem has so much importance to God and His plans for the entire world. And obviously, Hell doesn’t like that at all. Consider these facts about Jerusalem…
Jesus died for the sin of the world in Jerusalem
Jesus rose from the dead in Jerusalem!
Jesus ascended to heaven from Jerusalem!
The Holy Spirit was first poured out on believers in Jerusalem!
The birth of the Church was in Jerusalem!
The Gospel was first preached in Jerusalem!
The Antichrist will rule from Jerusalem!
Jesus will return back to Jerusalem!
The headquarters for the Kingdom of God on earth will be in Jerusalem
God truly loves Jerusalem!
And these are a few reasons why Satan hates Jerusalem!

JERUSALEM…CHOSEN BY GOD – NOT ARABS
Jerusalem Is Mentioned 814 Times In The Bible!
Jerusalem Is Not Once Mentioned In The Koran!
KING DAVID FOUNDED THE CITY OF JERUSALEM 1,600 YEARS BEFORE ISLAM WAS FOUNDED. Mohammad NEVER came to Jerusalem. Jews pray facing Jerusalem – while Muslims pray with their backs toward Jerusalem.
For over 3,300 years, Jerusalem has been the Jewish capital. Jerusalem has NEVER been the capital of any Arab or Muslim entity. Even when Jordanians occupied Jerusalem, they NEVER even tried to make it their capital, nor did any Arab leaders come to visit it as such, because it wasn’t important to them.

ALSO, CONSIDER THIS: The Arabs are represented by 8 separate nations, yet there is only one Jewish nation. The Arab nations have initiated all five wars against Israel with Israel defending itself each time and winning each time. Interestingly, the Arab refugees living in Israel never began identifying themselves as part of a “Palestinian people” until 1967, two full decades AFTER the establishment of the modern State of Israel Under control of the Arabs and Muslims, the city laid in complete ruins for centuries, yet when the Jews returned to their homeland, suddenly the Arabs wanted to make the city of Jerusalem an issue!

JERUSALEM…CHOSEN BY GOD – NOT ARABS
This is the ONE place in all of the world, that Jehovah God – the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob – has singled out and called “His Very Own”…so no wonder the controversy!
2 Chronicles 6:6
But I HAVE CHOSEN JERUSALEM, that My Name might be there; and have chosen David to be over My people Israel.
After Trump’s Recognition Of Jerusalem As Israel’s Capital, Pakistani Historian Mobarak Haidar Writes:
‘Muslims Of The World… Have No Religious Basis Rule Jerusalem’
After U.S. President Donald Trump recognized Jerusalem as the capital of Israel, on December 6, 2017, Mobarak Haidar (above), renowned Pakistani historian and author of multiple books, wrote the following on his Facebook page:[1]
“Jerusalem And Muslim Claims
“The Holy Koran spoke of Al-Aqsa Mosque when it was not a ‘mosque’ in the Islamic sense. It was a holy place because of the prophets of Israel, from Moses to Jesus. It was the holy spot of worship for Jews and Christians. Obviously, there were no Muslims in the city of Jerusalem till the era of Emir-ul-Momineen Umar ibn Khattab… The Prophet [Muhammad] and his followers prayed with their faces toward this Jewish-Christian holy temple because Kaaba (the present center of Islamic Hajj) was full of idols.

“After the ‘Conquest of Mecca,’ Muslims were told to turn their faces toward Kaaba and away from Jerusalem. They have never faced their loyalty toward Jerusalem after that, for the last 1,400 years. No Muslim ever went to pray in Jerusalem till it was conquered by the second caliph [Umar ibn Khattab], although there was no restriction on Muslims. They do not go there today because it was no longer their center.

“Christians were masters of Jerusalem before Muslims conquered it. It is still a holy place for Christians. But Christians have no dispute over ownership of the city. It is their religious right to visit the holy city; and the Jews do not stop them. Muslims, too, should have the same religious rights, and in fact they have those rights; Jews do not stop them. Muslims of the world, therefore, have no religious basis to rule Jerusalem. Most of the Muslims have never even wished to visit Jerusalem. As for the political claim, only Palestinians can make it and only they should negotiate.

“It cannot be a collective Muslim claim. Quraishi Arabs were masters of Jerusalem for some time. Then Mamluks, Muslim kings, took over. Turks came after them. Colonial Christians were the last political rulers. It is interesting to note that Iranian Muslims or Muslims of the Indian Subcontinent or Southeast Asia or of Africa have never been its masters. They can claim only spiritual ties.
“Active centers of Muslim faith are none other than the Holy Cities of Mecca and Medina. Iranians have never controlled these active centers. But they are passionately building deadly weapons and jihadi forces to conquer or destroy Israel. It is sectarian politics of hegemony which can generate nothing but division and pain.”
This will interest you…..

LAST ENDTIME PROPHECY JUST GOT FULFILLED

If you are alive and reading this post and you haven’t made peace with God, you may wish to know that about the last of Jesus’ prophecies concerning the endtime has just been fulfilled.

With today’s decision by World Power, the US to officially recognise Jerusalem as Israel’s Capital and further directive that its embassy be moved there from Tel Aviv, the next major event the world is about to witness is the RAPTURE!

This should interest all Christians and indeed all Bible students.

In 1948, God’s promise to gather and to restore scattered Israelites and bring them into their own land was fulfilled with the declaration and recognition of Israel as a sovereign nation, Ezekiel 34: 11-16.

But Jerusalem had remained in dispute till date. Though the US Congress voted in favour of the move 20 years ago, all US Presidents from Bill Clinton have blocked the move, until today.

Any follower of Endtime prophecies in the book of Daniel would agree that Donald Trump’s ascendency to the White House was something out of the ordinary.

Zechariah 12 reveals that at the time of the end, Jerusalem shall become the centre of world attention ‘with all the nations of the world joining forces to attack her,’ verse 4.

Today, that process has effectively, officially begun.

Fox News correspondent Shepherd Smith in reports strategically dubbed ‘Capital Controversy’ says that American embassies all over the world are already bracing for trouble, after that historic and stunning broadcast, today by President Trump.

“I have determined officially that it is time we recognise Jerusalem as the capital of Israel. Israel is a sovereign nation with the right to determine it’s own capital”, Trump said.

Barely a few minutes after the broadcast, more than 17 countries including Palestine, Qatar, Turkey, Jordan, and the Hamas have signed up to vex Israel and Jerusalem with fierce reprisals and rage.

This should not surprise you.

Speaking on the signs of the endtime, Jesus said in Luke 21:20 ‘And when ye shall see Jerusalem compassed with armies, then know that the desolation thereof is nigh,’ KJV.

Concerning the armies currently encamping round about Jerusalem, God told Zechariah in chapter 12: 3-9 that ‘when that times come, I will make Jerusalem like a heavy stone – any nation that tries to lift it will be hurt. At that time, I will terrify all their horses and make all their riders go mad … The surrounding nations shall be destroyed and the people of Jerusalem will remain safe in the city … At that time I will destroy every nation that tries to attack Jerusalem.”

Beloved, the only other yet to be fulfilled prophecy, that is probably holding back the rapture and the concomitant chain of events, is Jesus’ Words in Matthew 24:14.

In that verse of Scripture, Jesus said ‘And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come.’

You may ask: how possible is it to reach 8 billion humans with the gospel.

Well, that’s almost already done – from Indonesia to Mongolia, people are already being reached with the message of salvation.

Prophet Daniel in chapter 12:4 inspired by God’s Holy Spirit foresaw that in the last
days, knowledge shall increase and give rise to amazing technologically innovations.

That prophecy was one of the earliest to user in the last days.

Today, ICTs, satellite communication and Internet-ready, hand-held digital personal digital assistants and gadgets take the gospel to every corner of the globe iBn real time, 247.

So there isn’t any tenable excuse,my dear friend.

If you have read this post or ever heard the message of salvation, that’s a Testimony.

RAPTURE IS NEARER THAN WE THOUGHT
. Make the decision today.

God bless you.

NOTE
Let the Words of SALVATION go freely out of your mouth.
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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE Pastor and Businesses of Church Members

Pastor and Businesses of Church Members

By Gideon in Blog, Faith and Work on March 20, 2018

I just got this article by Dr. Steve Greene and hope it will impact on you as a Pastor and minister to be of great blessings to all the business men in the Church. This is 5 Ways Pastors can Impact Businesses of Church Members.
Perhaps your church is blessed to have business leaders attend your services. You are gifted to lead business leaders to the kingdom of God. But do you know how to help their businesses?
Bringing the Lord into a business is not much different than bringing Him into a home. We need to be attentive to the individual first. When a leader is radically saved, his impact at home and work should show the first display of fruit.
I’ve met business owners who were able to work out their salvation at home but not in the workplace. The connection between the workplace and the kingdom was never really established. In my experience, the church as a whole is weak in teaching about the Holy Spirit within the marketplace.
Church leaders have a critical role in the establishment of the kingdom of God in the marketplace.
I encourage you to read this story about my friend Ted Robertson who owns the highly successful Robertson Tire chain in Oklahoma. This is a good starting point for understanding how a business owner can impact as many or more souls than a local pastor.
Today, I simply want to share a few first steps leaders should be making to engage business owners:

1. Visit the business.

Get to know the business and the work. Ask God for spiritual understanding about the inner workings of the business. While in the business, pray for favor on behalf of the business. Just as with home visits, pray that the Holy Spirit will be “welcome in this place.”

2. Don’t ask for money.
Leave this to the Lord. I’ve spoken with MANY business owners who feel the church is only interested in their money. Along the way, someone has communicated that the role of a business leader is to fund church capital projects. Love the leader and his business.
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3. Engage the leader.
Business leaders are frequently very good team leaders. Ask the leader to serve in an area in which you need a strong team leader. Listen to their ideas. Good business leaders have a good eye for growth opportunities.

4. Accept the challenge.
Business leaders will likely challenge areas of observed weakness. They will tell you about your parking lot, bathrooms or child care problems. Business owners will see weaknesses and make suggestions. I’ve never been challenged by a business leader on spiritual matters.

5. Lead the leader to walk in the Spirit.
Perhaps this is the most difficult challenge in leading business leaders. Our job is to teach leaders to walk by faith and not focus upon things seen. The practical side of a business leader can be quite fleshly. Teach and model.
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A Spirit-led business can change the marketplace. When we invite the Holy Spirit into a business, we can expect to see and hear by the inspiration of God. The vision of the business will likely be altered to come into alignment with God’s purpose for the business.
How could your local community be impacted by Spirit-led business owners?
Does your platform reach business owners?

Word for thought:

“The first came, saying, ‘Master, your pound has made ten pounds more.‘ He said to him, ‘Well done, good servant! Because you have been faithful in very little, take authority over ten cities.’ The second came, saying, ‘Master, your pound has made five pounds more.’ He said in like manner to him, ‘You, take authority over five cities.'” (Luke 19:16-19).
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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE PASTOR W. F. KUMUYI MESSAGE TO THE CHURCHES

PASTOR W. F. KUMUYI MESSAGE TO THE CHURCHES

By Gideon in All of God, Blog on March 7, 2018

I slept around 10:20pm, not quite long after laying on the bed, I heard God calling Me Audibly So I Woke Up. When I Checked My Time, It Was 11:30P.M. Suddenly, I Felt The Urge To Pray So I Left The Bedroom To The sitting room & started Praying.
All Of A Sudden, My Eyes Opened And I Was In Another Realm. I Saw An Array Of Ladies Both Young And Old, Very Beautiful, Coming From The Sea Side. And I Asked God; Who Are These? And He Said, “These Are Marine Spirits That Have Been Commissioned By The Devil To Drag Many To The Kingdom Of Darkness. His Time Is Almost Up And He Has Vowed To Cause Many To Fall”. I Asked, Why Women? He Responded, “They Are Not Really Women But Are Evil Spirits That Have Taken A Feminine Form.”

So I Asked; What Is Their Mission And He Said, See! All Of A Sudden I Saw, People Having Sex. What Amazed Me Was That Some Were Having Sex By The Wayside, Some In Bushes, Some On Beaches, Some In Offices And In Open Places. So, I Asked Why? And He Said “These Are Sent To Spread Lust And Cause Many To Fall Into The Sin Of Fornication.” He Said, “Very Soon, Fornication Will Be Legalized.”

“The Spirits Are Meant To Befriend Many Young Ladies, Show Them Care And Eventually Initiate Them To Be Used By The Enemy.” I Saw Many Young Ladies. Unsuspecting Ladies Being Initiated And As Soon As They Were Initiated, They Had An Insatiable Desire For Sex.

I Also Saw Sugar Mummies Luring Young Men With Money And Cars. Right After Sleeping With Them, They Are Gone.

I Saw New Dresses Being Introduced. Dresses That Expose All Parts Of The Body. In Fact, I Saw A Very Fair Lady That Was Almost Naked. About 3 Quarter Of Her Breast Was Exposed And The Dress She Wore Was Very Transparent That One Could Virtually See Her Nakedness. Then I Saw Many People Buying These Dresses; Skimpy Short Skirts And Transparent Leggings And Blouses That Expose The Cleavage. Bleaching Of The Skin Was On The Rise. I Saw Them Pouring Potions On The Eye To Lure Men With Their Eyes.

“Tell The Church To Watch”, He Said. “They Will Try To Enter The Church, Target Pastors And Members, Especially From Choirs.” I Saw Members Of The Church Being Possessed And Sleeping With Each Other.

Amazingly,I Saw Two Ladies In A Particular Choir That Were Lesbians. Then I Saw Men Of God Sleeping With Members. Some Slept With Members Before They Mounted Pulpits.

I Saw That Pastors Are Battling Within Because There Is Not Just A Crack But An Opening On The Wall. Satan Has Entered Their Lives. Some Were Caught In The Web Of Pornography And Masturbation.
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In Fact, I Saw A Particular Pastor Watching Pornography And Masturbating In His Room. To Him The Room Was Locked And He Thought No One Was Seeing Him But I Saw That The Wall To His Room Facing The Public Was Broken And People Were Watching Him Without His Knowledge. And God Said To Me, “Whatever Is Being Done In Secret Is Already Open.”

I Also Saw Women Becoming Unsubmissive And Disrespectful To Their Husbands And This Act Frustrated Husbands To Fall Prey To These Spirits When They Left Home.

I Saw Many Being Manipulated Through Food And Clothes. And I Saw Many Chains As Well. And He Said To Me, “These Are Chains Of Addiction That Has Kept Many People In Sexual Bondage.”

Some Women Were Showering Enchanted Gifts To Pastors And Were Gradually Changing Their Status.

“Tell My People To Stay Within The Boundaries Of My Word. Let Them Not Depart From Them. Tell Them To Watch And Pray. Let Them Be Focused On Me And This Will Help Them Avoid Every Distraction Of The Enemy.”
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BITTER TRUTH:

Believe It Or Not, Accept It Or Not. You Can Be In Deeper Life Bible Church And Your Life Can Still Be Shallow And Deep In Sin…

*You Can Attend The Redeemed Christian Church Of God And Yet Your Life Remains Unredeemed…

*You Can Be A Member Of Winner’s Chapel And Still Be A Slave Of Sin, Fulfilling All It’s Lusts Till You Die…

*You Can Be In Mountain Of Fire Ministries And Your Life Is Still In The Valley Of Lukewarmness And Spiritual Coldness…

*You Can Be Among The Salvation Army And Still Suffer Defeat; Not Knowing What It Means To Be Saved From Sin…

*You Can Be In Christ Embassy And Still Be Working Directly As Satan’s Immoral Ambassador In His Evil Embassy…

*You Can Be In Dunamis And Yet You Remain Powerless Spiritually, Lacking Basic Grace…

*You Can Attend The Lord’s Chosen Church And Yet Be Among The Rejected Many…

*You Can Speak In Tongues And Miss Heaven…

*You Can “Win Souls” And Miss Heaven…

*You Can See Vision And Miss Heaven…

*You Can Cast Out Devil And Miss Heaven…

*You Can Perform Miracles And Still Miss Heaven..

*You Can Read The Whole Bible And Miss Heaven…

*You Can Attend All Fellowship Activities And Camp meetings And Miss Heaven…

*You Can Have Anointing And Miss Heaven…

*You Can Have All Spiritual Gifts And Miss Heaven…

*You Can Wield Power And Unction And Still Miss Heaven…

*But You CANNOT Live A HOLY LIFE AND MISS HEAVEN.

HOLINESS IS THE REAL DEAL !

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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE The Christian Home

The Christian Home

By Gideon in Blog, MARRIAGE on January 25, 2018

The nearest thing to heaven on earth is the Christian family and home, where husband and wife, parents and children, live together in love and peace, devoted to God and to each other. By way of contrast, the nearest thing to hell on earth is the ungodly home, broken by sin and iniquity, where parents quarrel and bicker and separate, and where children are given over to the forces of wickedness to be brought up with scarcely any training at all.

The word “home” likely takes your mind back across the years, and for some the mind goes across hundreds of miles of space—to the spot which will be forever hallowed in your memories among all places on earth. You are reminded of the place where you grew up as a boy or as a girl, playing around the yard with brothers and sisters and neighbor children, and where you sat around the old range stove on a winter evening with your mother and dad and the rest of the family. There are several things about that old home-place which are not true about any other spot on earth.

In this message we want to see what the Bible says about the duties of the various members of the family to each other and to the Lord.

1. Duties of Wives To Their Husbands

a) The Christian wife is to be subject to her husband.
Ephesians 5:22-23 says, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church.”

Marriage is not a 50-50 proposition. The husband and the wife are not to bejointly in the place of headship. Our Lord plainly says, “The husband is the head of the wife.” This does not mean that the wife is less important in the home than the husband or that she is to be a slave of the husband, but it does mean that she is to submit to the leadership role of her husband. The only exception would be if he asks her to violate clear scriptural teachings (Acts 5:29).
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The Lord commands husbands to love their wives, and if the husband loves his wife as Christ loved the church, she will have no difficulty with being subject to him. When problems arise (and they will arise), they should be carefully discussed together. A vote should be taken. If both agree—good. But in the case of a tie (the wife votes one way and the husband votes the other), then the husband should cast the deciding vote. The husband should assume the final leadership in the home.

b) The wife is to respect and admire her husband.
Ephesians 5:33 says, “Let every one of you (husbands) . . . so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

The wife should respect her husband. This seems to be true even for the wife who has an unsaved husband (1 Peter 3:1). What kind of life are you living before your husband? Does he see in you true Christian living? Are you cheerful, loving, loyal, and obedient? Some wives drive their husbands away from Christ because they don’t respect them. Instead of being cheerful and obedient, they are noted for preaching and nagging. Nothing breaks the spirit of a man more quickly than a nagging wife.

c) The Christian wife is to be a keeper at home.
Titus 2:4-5 says, “Teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home.”

The home is to be the sphere of the woman’s influence. There are too many families that have such a high standard of living that mother has to work away from home to help pay the bills. Then in the evening, when happy family activities should take place, mother’s energy is all spent, and pressing duties don’t permit her that happy fellowship. There may be some exceptions, but generally speaking, the father is to be the breadwinner and the mother is to be the keeper at home.

2. Duties of Husbands To Their Wives

a) The husband is to honor and respect his wife.
We are instructed in 1 Corinthians 7:3, “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence.”

The husband is to show due courtesies to his wife. It is pathetic to see how some young men can play the part of a gentlemen, be courteous, gracious, and show respect to young ladies when they are courting them—and then after marriage, they come home and scold and nag and become sullen and bitter. The Christian husband is to remember that it is no easy thing for his wife to keep house, care for the children, and experience the vexing things that come along with the daily duties of home life. Let the husband render to his wife due courtesies.

b) The husband is to consider her physical frailty.
1 Peter 3:7 admonishes, “Husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel.”

The husband is to keep in mind that his wife is generally speaking physically more frail than he. Each husband should be careful not to create additional unnecessary work for his wife. And yet when some husbands leave the house in the morning, it seems like a windstorm has gone through, and when they come home at night they are careless about dragging dirt into the house. If we husbands would close our doors and hang up our clothes we may have more pleasant wives.

c) The husband is to truly love his wife.
Colossians 3:19 says, “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”

The husband is to demonstrate true affection for his wife. He should tell herthat he loves her, and he is to treat her with the same love and gentleness and kindness he showed her while he was courting her. How long is it, husband, since you remembered her with those little tokens of love (a box of candy or a bouquet of flowers) which you were eager to shower upon her during courtship days? If you have been neglecting this duty—go to your wife, apologize for your thoughtlessness, take out your family Bible, read the record of your marriage, and brighten up that old love! If husbands and wives would work as hard to keep each other as they once did to catch each other, most domestic home problems would be forever solved. The spirit of courtship needs to be continued throughout married life.

3. Duties of Children To Their Parents

a) Children should honor their parents.
God says in Ephesians 6:2, “Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise.”
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It is the duty of every child to respect and honor his parents. If you are inclined to be ashamed of them, remember that they cared for you when you were altogether unable to care for yourself. We sometimes forget that our mothers endangered their lives for our sakes; we are ungrateful for the weary toil of our fathers; we fail to appreciate the many sleepless nights that they went through in order that we might be comfortable. All of us owe our parents honor and respect and courtesy.

b) Children should accept instruction from parents.
We read in Proverbs 1:8, “My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother.”

That admonition is very simple. Children can easily understand it. It is wise to heed the instructions of parents because the advice and mandates which Christian parents give are generally intended for the welfare of the child.

c) Children should diligently obey their parents.
Children are instructed in Colossians 3:20, “Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.”

One of the most beautiful Scriptures regarding the childhood of Jesus is the one which says, “He went down to Nazareth and was subject unto them.” If Jesus, the eternal Son of God, was subject to family authority, then certainly every child ought to obey his parents. One of the saddest New Testament Scriptures is the one that says, in the last days children shall be “disobedient to parents.” A child should never call his dad “the old man” and his mother “the old lady.” Children—treat your parents as you’ll wish you had treated them when you say your last goodbye to them and when you take that last look at mother and daddy as they lie before you in their caskets.

4. Duties of Parents To Their Children

a) Parents should teach their children.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, “And these words which I command thee this day shall be in thine heart; and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shall talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”

Bear in mind that every child is born into this world with a sinful nature, and that the cute cooing baby in his cradle will soon demonstrate that he has a will of his own. He will lustily scream if he doesn’t get his own way. Thus every child needs to be taught diligently. Reading and quoting the Bible in your home should be just as natural as talking about the weather. Teach them the way of salvation. Read to them from wholesome literature. Memorize Bible verses with them. It is amazing how much truth a child’s mind can absorb.

b) Parents should be good examples for their children.
The passage in Deuteronomy 6:6 says, “And these words . . . shall be in thine heart, and thou shalt teach them.”

The Word of God must first be in the parents’ hearts! Children are great imitators. We have all seen little girls wearing the clothes of older persons. They want to be like mother. The best way to “train up a child in the way he should go” is to go that way yourself. Most children want to be the kind of man or woman their mother and dad is.
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c) Parents should discipline their children.
Proverbs 29:15 says, “The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.”

The New Testament says that children shall be brought up in the “nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). The word for “nurture” actually refers to “discipline.” Some don’t use the rod, but if you want to ruin your children, just give in to their every desire and you can be assured that the job of ruination will soon be complete. I have seen children throw themselves on the floor and kick and scream and insist on getting their own way, and the parents said, “Let them alone, they must express themselves!” God have mercy on parents who fail to discipline and admonish their children. The Bible tells of God’s judgment on one family because the father (who was a good man engaged in the service of the Lord) failed to discipline his sons (1 Samuel 3:13).

May God help us to live “at home” so sweetly, so tenderly, and so lovingly—that the memories we make within our homes may be music in the heart, sweeter than the songs that angels sing, and may our family circles be unbroken in the world to come.

-By Harold S. Martin
Used by permission of Bible Helps, P O Box 391, Hanover PA 17331.USA

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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE Grace For Finishing Strong

Grace For Finishing Strong

By Gideon in Blog, Life Sharing, Ministry on October 27, 2017

Almost everybody in the 20th and the 21st century has heard of EVANGELIST BILLY GRAHAM , but have you heard about EVANVELIST CHUCK TEMPLETON? What about EVANGELIST BRON CLIFFORD ? Have you ever heard of them?

EVANGELIST CHUCK & EVANGELIST BRON were also packing AUDITORIUMS and STADIUMS full in 1945 when Billy Graham first preached to large crowds?
According to Pastor Tommy Barnett of Phoenix, all three of these young men rose to prominence in their mid twenties.

A seminary president, after HEARING Evangelist Chuck Templeton spoke as a brilliant and dynamic preacher called him the most gifted, talented young preacher in America.

Templeton and Billy Graham became very close friends. They started preaching together with the Youth For Christ organization. Most observers thought that Templeton would be the one who would go to the top.

One magazine wrote a feature article calling Templeton the “Babe Ruth of evangelism”.

As for Evangelist Bron Clifford, he was another gifted, young fire brand evangelist. Many believed that Bron Clifford was the most gifted powerful preacher to come up in the church for many centuries.

People lined up for hours to hear him preach. When he went to Baylor University to give a discourse, they actually cut the ropes off the bells of the tower. They wanted nothing to interfere with his preaching.

For two and one half-hours the students of Baylor sat on the edges of their seats as he gave a powerful homily titled “CHRIST and the PHILOSOPHER’S Stone.”

AT the age of 25, BRON CLIFFORD touched more lives, influenced more leaders and set more attendance records than any other clergyman in American history.

National political and government leaders vied for his attention. He was tall, handsome, dashing, sophisticated and intelligent. Hollywood actually tried to cast him in the lead role for the famous movie, “The Robe”. He seemed to have everything.

GRAHAM, TEMPLETON , and CLIFFORD launched out of the starting blocks like those running for Olympic gold medals in 1945.

Why have we not heard of CHUCK TEMPLETON or BRON CLIFFORD? The answer is shocking and surprising to keep you speechless.

SO SAD:
By 1950 TEMPLETON had left the MINISTRY. He pursued a radio career. He became an announcer and a newscaster, TELLING THE WORLD THAT HE NO LONGER BELIEVED JESUS CHRIST WAS THE SON of GOD. He became an ATHEIST.

By 1950, this future Babe Ruth of preaching was not even in the ball game!

SO SAD ALSO:
By 1954 CLIFFORD had lost his family, ministry and health. Eventually he lost his life because of ADDICTION to ALCOHOL. FINANCIAL irresponsibility left his WIFE and their two Downs syndrome children penniless. This once famous preacher dies of cirrhosis of the liver at the age of 35 in a rundown hotel on the edge of Amarillo, Texas.

CLIFFORD died a pitiful, dishonorable and unsung death. Some pastors from Amarillo, Texas got together and collected enough money to buy a cheap casket. They shipped his body back to the East Coast, where he was buried in a pauper’s cemetery.
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In 1945 all three of these men with extraordinary gifts were preaching for the purpose of multiplying the church by thousands of people. But within 10 years only one of them was still on track for Christ. THAT IS BILLY GRAHAM.

In this Christian life it’s not how you started, it’s how you finish! There is a recent survey that is really shocking and mind boggling.

It reported that only ONE out of TEN who start in ministry at the age of 21 serve the Lord to age 65.

They FALL AWAY from ministry due to IMMORALITY, PRIDE, BITTERNESS OF HEART, DISCOURAGEMENT, STRANGE THEOLOGICAL BELIEFS and a LOVE for WEALTH and the THINGS of this WORLD.

Sir or Ma, he who thinks he is standing should seek God always to remain standing, the grounds are very slippery these days.

Not all men who can shout are a voice for God. You can be a voice for God or a voice for man. Choose right.

THE CHALLENGE TO YOU AND MY SELF WHO are TODAY PREACHERS…. WILL YOU FINISH STRONG FOR CHRIST?

Let us continue to pray for one another because even the seeming successful ones needs our prayers more than ever before.

PRAYER:
Dear Lord keep us strong by your grace only and for you only till the end of days in Jesus name.

1Co 10:11-12
Now all these things happened unto them for examples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come.

Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.

Finishing Strong! –David Cawston.
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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE Serious Caution In Growing Marriage!

Serious Caution In Growing Marriage!

By Gideon in Blog, MARRIAGE on October 16, 2017

Please note that you can avoid adultery-the most common attacks on marriage. It is within your power to do it, if you really mean it.
Carelessness is one of the major causes of affairs in marriage not the devil in the real sense of it as many people always claim when they fall into error. So abide with this following simple rules and you will never fall into adultery and it will also help you to adjust quickly in growing a lasting relationship.

1: Never make a member of the opposite sex your best friend with whom you share intimate discussions.

2: Never be with a member of the opposite sex at a time your spouse doesn’t know you are there.

3: Never speak evil about your spouse in the presence of anyone. they will know you are not happy in your marriage and take advantage of that by showing you insincere affections and give you what you lack with your Spouse and destroy you.

5: Never visit a website you will not be proud to tell your children and wife / husband you visited.

6: Avoid keeping secrets from your spouse, AFFAIRS thrive in secrecy.
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7: Avoid confiding in the people of the opposite sex, there should be somebody of your sex you can talk to. don’t dig the grave of your marriage with your mouth.

8: Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favour from the opposite sex. They will ask for sex in return. they are not Father Christmas.

9: Avoid thinking that anybody is better than your husband or wife. you don’t know what their spouses are enduring at home. what you see outside is just show biz don’t be deceived. Grass is only greener in the other compound because it is far from you.

10: Divert all your sexual fantasy towards your spouse. He or she is planted in to your life to satisfy you and keep you holy.

11: Always remember that whatever every woman or man has in his or her body, your spouse has it too and they are not different from each other, only faces differ it is the same package.

12: Deal with any sexual thoughts that is not directed towards your spouse, kill it before it kills you. Sexual error doesn’t begin in the bedroom,it begins in the heart.

14: Before traveling have sex with your spouse and put your mind to it that you will not have sex until you come back. that decision may save your life and destiny.

15: Men, avoid looking at the front and back side of ladies and imagine what is there. It is stupid, childish and dirty to do that, that’s called lust, what is there isn’t different from what your spouse has, please don’t be stupid sir.

16: Walk in the company of good and Godly men/women. If you keep company with adulterers, you will become adulterous.

17: Discuss your sexual desires with your spouse and let it be met at home, don’t hunt for something that will hunt you later and hurt you deeply tomorrow, your wife/ husband has the best, get it at home.
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18: fill your heart with the word of God always, this will not give lust a chance in your mind.

20: Always count the cost of adultery, don’t just look at the pleasure, look at the pain, loss of integrity, how you will hurt your wife/husband, children, friends and above all GOD the almighty.

21: Always remember that the enjoyment, pleasure and the thrills in sex is just 8 seconds or less, it can not be more than that but its repercussions can last for eternity. Why trade eternity for 8 seconds, is there wisdom in that?

22: Pray regularly for your Spouse and your marriage. It is well.

BE FAITHFUL TO YOUR SPOUSE AND YOU WILL BE GLAD YOU DID.
God bless your marriage.
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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE Improving The Marriage Relationship

Improving The Marriage Relationship

By Gideon in Blog, MARRIAGE on September 27, 2017

It has been evident in recent years that marriage relationships are deteriorating in our society. Satan is trying to destroy the home, but we praise God for every effort toward its preservation.

God’s blessing is upon the husband-wife relationship. Proverbs 18:22 says, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord.” Not only does marriage and the husband-wife relationship have a blessing from the Lord, but also in God’s Word we are given guidelines by which we can maintain the husband-wife relationship as God intended it to be. Marriage was meant to be a blessed relationship.
And so we ask the question—is your husband-wife relationship a blessed relationship, or is it a strained ordeal?

1. What the Marriage Relationship Should Be Like

In Ephesians 5 we observe that the husband-wife relationship is compared to that of Christ and the Church. In other words, our model indicates that the husband-wife relationship is one that lasts forever, a kinship that grows sweeter as the years go by, a relationship that provides an example of peace and joy, a relationship that will weather the storms and trials of life, and one against which the gates of Hell cannot prevail. Hopefully we can say that by the grace of God we have found our relationship in the home to be that way.

Even children can quickly sense whether mother and father really love each other and whether there is the warmth of love in their home, or whether there is a distance and a coldness between the parents. You may remember the story about the home that was preparing for a wedding. Big sister was getting married and little sister was all eyes and ears to know what was going on and what this was all about. One day she heard them talking about the marriage vows. She said, “What’s that all about?” Mother answered, “Well, that is when big sister and her boyfriend will promise to love and always be kind to each other as long as they live.” Little sister thought a moment, and said, “Well then, you mean that you and daddy aren’t always married.” It is quite clear that our children know what kind of relationship we really have.
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I read about a husband whose job required that the family move frequently. While he was temporarily assigned work in one particular area, his family lived in a small hotel room. One day the little girl (for want of a bigger place to play) was playing “doll-house” down in the lobby. One kind lady passed through the hallway, and tried to be helpful and sympathetic. She said to the little girl, “It’s a pity that you don’t have a home of your own.” The little girl responded, “Oh, we do have a home; we just don’t have a house to put it in.” Can you say your relationship is such that you have a home even if your house is less than adequate? If father and mother are happy together, that contentment is conveyed to the children. Judge Gilliam says, “The lack of affection between father and mother is the greatest source of delinquency that I know.” Is your relationship what you would like it to be? Does it bother you when you see another couple that seems to really be happy?

2. Ways To Improve the Marriage Relationship

All sincere married partners want to improve their marriage. No couples should ever be satisfied where they are. In school, we learned a little motto which goes like this: “Good, better, best! Never let it rest until your good is better and your better is best!”

One couple whose marriage was just about on the rocks determined that they were going to improve their marriage by God’s help. The husband describes what they did: “We got together and took a pencil and paper and each wrote down the things we did not like about the other. We had a long list. When done, we exchanged the papers, and we found it was difficult to face each other’s list. We walked together to a point where we burned the papers and watched them go up in flames. Then we came back and sat down and started making a list of things we liked about each other. This was difficult too, but when the lists were completed, we exchanged the papers and looked at them. Later we framed them and hung them in our bedroom, so that each morning when we arise we can see what our partner likes, and concentrate on doing those positive things. By God’s grace, it has transformed our marriage.” If your marriage is not what you would like it to be, and you really seriously mean business—by God’s grace, it can be improved. However you must be willing to work at it.

(a) Avoid comparing your marriage with other marriages

It is a tragic mistake to look at the marriage relationship of another couple and to wish that your relationship would be like theirs. According to 2 Corinthians 10:12, we should not be among the number who compare ourselves among ourselves, because such people are not wise. Our human nature tends to see the good points (the “plus” points) in others who are more distant from us, and the bad points (the “minus” points) in those who are closer to us. If we keep looking at the minus points, we will have a different outlook in life. Remember that the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence, but keep in mind too that the closer you are to the circumstances, the easier it is to see the faults.

A magazine article pointed out what it called “an ideal marriage” between a state governor and his wife. Yet it was only a matter of a few years until their marriage was on the rocks. From a distance the marriage looked successful, but it must not have been quite as great as the writer thought. We need to stop looking around and stop comparing our relationship with that of another husband and wife. We must realize that couples are different. God did not intend that all of us should conduct our homes in the same way, and that we should all like the same things—or He would have made us all over the same carbon copy. Some couples like to be on the go almost all the time, almost every night of the week. Then there are other couples whose nature it is to stay home much of the time. In some homes, the wife is reserved and the husband is outgoing; in others, the wife can not sew and the husband is not a businessman. We must accept the fact that God has made us all different, and then we must concentrate on just being ourselves in the light of Ephesians 5:21 which says, “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” Most of the time we overlook that verse and think only upon the following verses which tell us that husbands should “love” and wives should “submit.” But actually,Ephesians 5:22-23 gives the further instructions once we have accepted the point of verse 21, “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” In other words, we should not look at other people, but submit ourselves to each other and work out the marriage relationship which God has ordained for us.

(b) Build an attitude of trust toward your partner

Do you as married partners really trust each other? Can you (the husband) say to your wife: “Am I really worthy of your trust? Do you feel that you will be my `one and only’ forever?” Do you as a husband (or as a wife) enjoy being with your partner more than with anyone else? You will want to be together as much as possible. People today speak very lightly about trust and the high ideal of a solid marriage relationship. Even secular counselors tell us they are finding out that the kind of loose living which is common today simply is not working. It doesn’t work because until one is really committed to another person for life, he cannot actually give himself wholeheartedly to that person.

Many ask what is wrong with pre-marital sex and mention that “everybody is doing it,” and they argue that no one is going to find out about the relationship anyhow. But you cannot really give yourself physically or emotionally or spiritually until you can trust each other and know that the relationship will last for life. If you are one who thinks that there is not much wrong with pre-marital sex, it will be difficult for your partner to trust you. If, on the other hand, you count fornication as a wicked sin, your partner can much more readily trust you. If you were loose in your living before your marriage, how can your partner trust you after marriage? When passion wears out, how will your partner know that you will not go out and try some other thrill when you are bored with her?

God’s Word says we are to confess our faults one to another (James 5:16), and this is good advice for married couples as an aid in building trust. Some might say that “What my partner doesn’t know won’t hurt him.” But we are spiritual beings and not mere physical creatures. We can cover up the past, but there is always the possibility your partner will find it out, and so it is best to confess your misdeeds. This will help build trust and will lead to a happier marriage relationship.
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When someone says “My partner does not trust me”—one of the first questions I ask is: “What have you done to cause your partner to feel that way?” The partner must not necessarily be blamed. You may be the one to blame if your companion does not trust you. I believe that if we husbands feel our partners do not trust us, then we ought to be a leader and go to the wife and ask what is wrong, and give her the right to tell us why she does not trust us. I also believe that where it says “Husbands love your wives,” we have a clear command not only never to commit adultery with someone else, but to love our wives with our body, mind, soul, and spirit. Only then can we have a beautiful marriage relationship. One of the big weaknesses of many husbands is the fact that after marriage, there is a tendency for him to sort of secretly admire someone else. A wife can detect that real quickly.

Let each husband abstain from all appearance of evil, and beware of placing ourselves into tempting circumstances—for we are all human, and we can easily fall. I read recently about a couple who were happily married, but another couple with whom they could share closely, became good friends. They were together so much, and in each other’s presence so often—it soon came to the place that they were too intimate, and before they realized it, both marriages were wrecked—because the one husband started to admire the other wife more than he did his own wife. Beware of circumstances where you sense you are no longer admiring only your partner, because you will lose your trust, and your marriage could falter.

(c) Diligently try to please your partner

To improve marriage relationships, it is important to try and please your partner. God’s Word says that the wife tries to please her husband (1 Corinthians 7:34), and the Christian husband tries to please his wife (1 Corinthians 7:33). Are you really trying to please your married partner, or do you frequently say, “I’ll do what I please”? Is your attitude one which says, “if we can’t agree, we will each go our own way”? This kind of relationship does not make for a happy marriage bond.

The important question in marriage is not, “How can I have all my needs fulfilled in this marriage—but how much love can I express in meeting the needs of the one I marry?” Love says, “I will give.” Immaturity says, “Please me, and I will try to please you.” Do you ever do things just to “bug” your partner? Do you ever tease your partner when you know he doesn’t like it? There are too many marriages lived out on the “I’ll get even” basis. “If you treat me this way, I’ll get back in this way.” The husband is one hour late for supper, so his wife makes him wait an hour for supper the next night. This kind of action will not work for harmony. One husband might say, “I’m going hunting; I don’t care what you say.” The wife says she is going shopping and will spend as much money as she wants. This is not the way to please each other as partners. This is the “get even philosophy” and such a marriage is going to be much less than ideal.

Instead of living on the “get even” level, try this formula: Try sharing, bearing, working, and changing together. It should be a continuation of courtship days. Husband and wife are different in order to challenge each other, to grow together toward maturity, and not to see who is right or to determine what is right. One of the goals for married partners is to determine how we can best change together for the honor and glory of God.

3. Factors To Guard in the Marriage Relationship

Let me go a little further. It is a sin for married partners to refuse physical relationships for an extended period of time without mutual consent. The Scripture says, “The wife has not power of her own body, but the husband; and likewise the husband has no power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and come together again that Satan tempt you not in your incontinency” (1 Corinthians 7:4-5). In other words, the wife’s body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband. And in the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone, but also to his wife.

We must exercise moderation in the area of physical relationships. It is possible that some couples use what they think is a “holier than thou” approach, and they try to get even with each other (and to get back at the partner) by withholding the sexual privilege. Some marriages are not what they ought to be because people physically are selfish. They want to try to please themselves. They reason this way: “If you don’t please me, I’ll get even.” When a husband by-passes his wife for his physical needs, and has his own private sexual releases, the wife then also turns her physical drive for affection to the love and kisses she receives from the children. It can even lead to affairs with other men. Withholding sexual privilege is not pleasing to God. It is not pleasing to your partner. Your marriage fulfillment will decrease.

Married partners also must guard against the danger of not learning to really know each other. Do you know your partner’s sorrows, joys, and concerns? Are you aware of what her life goals are? Or don’t you talk together about these kinds of things? Some time ago I was in a home where a wife and husband were members of different church denominations. I asked the husband where his wife attends church services. He mentioned where she normally attended. I asked whether she was a member of that church body. He said he is not sure if she considers herself a member or not. It is really difficult for me to imagine a husband and wife living under the same roof and talking so little about spiritual things.
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It is a sad fact, but it is true: Very few husbands and wives spend more than a few minutes each week really talking about things that matter. Many fail to have frequent heart-to-heart talks. Husbands and wives should be free to give constructive criticisms to each other, without being considered negative or harsh or critical. The husband should be the leader, but the wife as a help-meet can be a very wise counselor. God did not make each of us a whole unit. After marriage, each is only a half. It is only when both husband and wife put together their thoughts and concerns that they have a balanced outlook on life.

In conclusion, there is no “perfect” marriage. It requires a continual effort. A good marriage relationship requires a day-by-day, week-by-week attempt to keep things in harmony, but it is worth it all. Marriage can be a bit of heaven here upon earth. It is like a garden. You can have a beautiful garden, but you must keep the weeds down. So also in marriage, the devil is looking for marriages in which to sow the tares so that he can wreck the marriage. He hopes to keep it from bearing fruit. By God’s grace and help we can keep every weed dug out. The sooner we dig it out, or the sooner we go to a counselor for help, the more quickly we can have that beautiful relationship in Jesus Christ.

Because marriage here on earth is never perfect, each marriage needs two little “bears.” They are “bear” and “forbear.” We are not perfect; we all have weaknesses; we all have idiosyncracies. A mature Christian does not expect perfection in his mate. To all others, take heed to this illustration: There once was a young wife who after several months of marriage said to her husband, “You know, John, we have been married for a while and I have learned to know you better. I would like to remind you of a few of your faults.” He said, “Oh—I know all about my faults. That’s the reason I couldn’t marry a better woman.” Remember that none of us is perfect, but we can be forgiving. To err is human, but to forgive is divine. A good marriage is not one where perfection reigns.
A good marriage is a relationship where each partner has taken Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour of their lives, and where a healthy understanding, plus the grace of God, can overlook a multitude of unresolvable difficulties.

-By Samuel M. Cassel
Used by permission of Bible Helps, P O Box 391, Hanover PA 17331.USA
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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE Marriage Is Real Hard Work

Marriage Is Real Hard Work

By Gideon in Blog, MARRIAGE on September 12, 2017

LEARN FROM THIS CONFESSION / TESTIMONY.

I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage?

Beaming, she retorted; My daughter, the expectations you bring into marriage will either spell its doom or success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that.

You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable.

“So, I married without high expectations from my husband but simply to make him happy always”

Yes, for the past 47 years, I would be the first to get up from bed and the last to go back to bed. I bath the kids, do devotions with them, prepare breakfast for my husband and boil hot water for him to bath. I iron his clothes he would take to work, kiss him and wish him the best in his daily endeavours.

So I ask my old woman, so then what does the man do in return?
She laughed all heart and hearty and replied; You see, this is the mistake you young ones make in marriage.
YOU DO SOMETHING TO YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE AND EXPECT SAME REWARD FROM HIM OR HER, THIS IS WRONG!

When it becomes your attitude to always please your husband or wife, the other person responds naturally. Indeed, if nothing touches the palm tree, it doesn’t rattle.
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She continued, my daughter, never carry how rich or poor your family is into marriage. After all, you knew very well the status of your family and decided to marry that man or woman.

Love only compels would- be couples into marriage but it doesn’t sustain marriage. Rather, understanding, patience, communication and most importantly, forgiveness sustain every marriage. High expectations are the symptoms of divorce in marriages.

Sometimes you hear, I want to marry a mother, a business partner, God fearing person etc. You can’t get all your expectations in one person. With time and depending on your relationship, you may get some. So minimise your expectations in marriage.
To cut the long story short, as too much cook spoil the broth, she concluded on the mistakes couple should resist at all cost in marriage:
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1) Never say you have made your wife or husband somebody from a nobody. It hurts. God only use you as an agent for transformation, give the glory to God.

2) Let the man be head financially, emotionally,
physically and spiritually, whilst the woman exercise diligence in the use of the tongue.

3) Children are not the ultimate in marriage. They are given to enhance your marriage. When God delays in giving you a child, have every reason to live a happy marital life.

There has never been any automatic barrenness in a person. Abraham got Ishmael at age 86 but at age 100 and 90, they eventually got their Isaac. Isaac had a barren family for 20 years but eventually got his twins; Jacob and Esau etc.

4) Sex is a major morale booster after a hard day’s stressful life. Try to be sexual beings and not “Angels” in that marriage

5) Resort to God often and less to men to solve your marital disputes.

6) Let the women ” Make up” their characters much more than they make up their body.

Indeed, marriage is not for small boys because small boys struggle to forgive, demand everything speedily, lack the patience to wait, have so many friends etc.
MAKE EVERY EFFORT TO LET THAT MARRIAGE WORK AND MAY GOD BLESS US ALL
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WORD-AFLAME LEADERSHIP COLLEGE MY EXPERIENCE IN HELL

MY EXPERIENCE IN HELL

By Gideon in Blog, RAPTURE on September 12, 2017

I was raped by a supposed friend (someone I thought I could trust). Left in shame and shock I could not tell anyone about my ordeal. I kept it to myself and went about my normal life.

Some weeks later after I came back from a vigil I started feeling weak so I went to a nearby hospital and ran some tests. To my greatest Shock I tested positive to pregnancy.

I told the man involved who after much plea convinced me to have an abortion which will be kept a secret.

I went in for an abortion however before the procedure I asked God to forgive me for what I was about to do and in the process I died, I left my body. Still looking at the lifeless form on the abortion table, I started ascending but in a flash a force pulled me down through a dark tunnel. I could not see the beginning or the end of the walls of the tunnel. It was dark, so dark, I saw cobweb like cells on the walls and in an instant I was in HELL.

I saw a woman who had been there for over a hundred years, she was in deep pain and agony, she would melt in the flames and the magma like liquid will come back together in the form of the woman. It occurred repeatedly. I knew I was in hell.

I began to burn and burn, I felt like pulling out my hair form its roots, because the pain was unbearable. It was as if my senses where magnified over a thousand times. The agony of the burns was not enough. The scream of people under the same torment was worse, it was so loud that I felt I would go deaf but they kept resonating in my ears.
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I began to scream, the more I screamed the weaker I got but the screams only got louder while I was getting weaker. I gnashed my teeth but no form of all these expressions made me feel better…it only got worse, beyond description. I was in deep torment.

The worse feeling was not just the pain, the noise, the screams or the pungent smell. It was the feeling of HOPELESSNESS/TOTAL DAMNATION. I WAS CONDEMNED FOREVER. I knew I was in HELL forever and ever. There was no way out. I began to cry out to God for mercy.

At a point Jesus appeared and I wept the more. I asked Him to please give me one SECOND out of hell to just scream Jesus is Lord and die again. Jesus replied, “how many seconds are in a minute, how many minutes are in an hour, how many hours are in a day, how many days are in a week, how many weeks are in a month and how many months are in a year and how many years have you lived on earth?” I have given you all the seconds in your living years yet you failed me.

I wept more and asked Him to have mercy and please give me another chance to go and tell the world about HELL. I pleaded with the Lord to give me a chance even if I return to the world without my hands or my legs at least let there be breath in my nostrils. I had a better understanding of the adage that a living dog is better than a dead lion. I even promised to tell the world of my ordeal if He delivers my soul from the torment in HELL.

He replied,’ many have gone from here to tell them, what makes you think they will believe you but I kept pleading for a second chance and as I was weeping and gnashing my teeth.

Jesus had mercy on me but warned me sternly that if I did not preach I would end up in hell. He said, ‘tell my people to stop playing games with me’. At that point I woke up in the hospital room.

At first she I scared of sharing my horrific ordeal because I was concerned about my reputation but finally opened up when I came in contact with Dominion City under Pastor David Ogbueli’s ministration.

WHAT IS YOUR OPPORTUNITY COST?

If you are reading this post that means you have a chance to make a change and reconcile with God or if you are lukewarm it’s time to stop playing games with God.

Words alone cannot tell of my torment in hell or the torment of those in hell.

HELL is not a myth, a story, OR a figment of someone’s imagination, HELL IS A REAL PLACE.

A place you would not even wish for your enemies or those who have hurt you most.
(Heb 9:27 ~ And as it is appointed for men to die once, but after this the judgement.)
If we recognize that all earthly things are someday going to be stripped away from us, then the craving for material possessions will matter far less to us now. We should turn away from physical indulgence, for earthly pleasure leaves no permanent gratification.
(2 Peter 3:11 ~ Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness)
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– We should stop giving excuses for God’s work
– We should imitate Christ
– Find out our purpose on earth and fulfil it
– Be part of the move of God in this last days
– Have a consistent walk with the Holy Spirit.

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