Thousands of tongues are not enough to appreciate the quantum grace and blessings of God as this year gradually runs to an end.
At the beginning of this year God told us in Faith Power Bible Church that 2020 is a year of Total Victory, little did we know that the battles with covid-19 pandemic will swept throughout the globe.
And in Nigeria alone the battle with terrorists and kidnappers still rages on.
The condition of the country is becoming more precarious, the peaceful youths #endsars against Police brutality suddenly turned bloody.
Now we have a better understanding of the mind of God that wars and troubles will precedes victory.
Indeed 2020 a year of Total Victory!
In all of these, God deserve our gratitude for awesome preservation of our lives and that of everyone around us.
Therefore let’s us pour out our heart to Him in deep appreciation and watch as He pour out more of His blessings into our life as we journey through the new year with His fulfilling covenants.
Happy New year in advance!
The birth of Jesus represents the hope of mankind. “Born this day in the city of David, a Savior, which is Christ the Lord,” the Angel of the Lord proclaimed. This purpose of this article is not to say it is wrong to celebrate Christmas in the cultural way we do, but don’t miss the true meaning. To help with how to go about doing that, here are 6 meaningful ways to celebrate Christmas:1. Advent Countdown:
Ordinarily, we may give our children a small gift in the 24 days of December leading up to Christmas Day or perhaps small candies.
You may want to craft an advent countdown of scripture verses that explain to the kids who Christ is and what he represents such as John 3:16. However, a little candy will probably go over well too.
2. Christ in the Center of the Family:
The birth of Christ is our pathway to unification with the Creator. Without him, we are separated from God. This Christmas season begin the process of putting Christ in the center of your family or work to strengthen that reality. One way to do this is to hold a family bible discussion each day during the season.
Pick a part of the Christmas story and create a dialogue with your children. You may want to read to them about the journey of Joseph and Mary on the way to Bethlehem.
Discuss how our own lives parallel that rocky and dangerous trek but, with the protection and blessing of God in our lives, we will successfully fulfill our purpose.
3. Service Based on Scripture:
In his words and actions, Jesus stressed over and over the importance of the body to serve. John 13:12-14 – “When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you understand what I have done to you? You call me Teacher and Lord, and you are right, for so I am. If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet.” Go serve people.
4. Silent Worship at the Altar:
Before the hustle and bustle of Christmas Eve service hits your church, ask for permission. Perhaps create a special night for a silent altar worship during the week before Christmas Day.
Take with you a single candle to light, and kneel before God in prayer and humbleness. Give each member of your family their own candle and keep it completely silent.
5. Reconcile our Relationships:
God came to us in human form to reconcile our relationship with him. His birth, death, and resurrection represent this reconciliation in the person of Jesus Christ.
Consider doing the same in your own relationships this Christmas season. Reconcile with and forgive those that have hurt you and, for those that you have hurt, seek forgiveness by sincere apology. Nothing could be more Christ-like at Christmas.
6. Family Prayer:
This is the easiest and most purposeful way to celebrate Christmas this year. Lead your family in prayer every night and end with the Lord’s Prayer as we were taught to do by Christ. Have your children recite it with you until they know it.
The church started celebrating Christmas on the festival of Winter Solstice because it was a way of bringing more people to Christ, by having a celebration to take place of the pagan one, it gave the pagans a way to join in and learn about Christ.
No, Jesus wasn’t born specifically on Dec 25th, we have no sure way of knowing exactly when He was, we can only infer, and many people have varying opinions on that.
So instead of focusing on the exact of when, let’s use this time to renew our love for Christ by remembering that He came down as a human, to be with us and save us. This was God’s choice, our choice is to honor Him, love Him, obey Him, or we can get bogged down in details and specifics that truly have no effect on things.Christ At The Center Of Christmas:
Christmas is my favorite time of year. I love all of the lights and decorations. I am thankful for what the season is really about, the birth of a Savior, Jesus Christ. If we are not careful, the season can overwhelm us and pass us by.
The hustle and bustle begins on Black Friday and continues all the way through New Year’s Day. Do not let another Christmas go by without taking some time to reflect on what Christmas really is about, Jesus Christ.
Here are ten things that you and your family can do to keep Christ at the center of Christmas and restore the joy to the season.
1. Remember the Gospel
The best way to keep Christ in Christmas is to remember the message of the gospel. God is holy and requires perfection. Man is sinful and separated from a loving God.
The gospel is at the heart of Christmas because God loved us so much that he sent his Son to lay down his life and die in our place.
We need to repent of our sins and trust Christ to save us. That is the heart of the gospel. If we are a believer, we should reflect on the gospel and be grateful for the sacrifice that Jesus made on the cross. If you are not saved, this is a great time to get saved.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him, shall not perish, but have eternal life.-John 3:16”
2. Share Your Faith With Others:
Another great way to keep Christ in Christmas is to share your faith with an unbelieving family member, friend, neighbor, or a stranger. Take them for a cup of coffee or a hot chocolate. You could share how you got saved or what God is doing in your life.
People’s hearts tend to be more open during this time of year, but try to avoid getting in an argument over it. Remember that you are representing Christ to them.
“But in your hearts separate Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect. -1 Peter 3:15
3. Read the Christmas Story:
On Christmas morning, gather with family and read the Christmas story in Luke 1 and 2. Take some time to discuss what it must have been like for Mary, who was a young teenage girl that would now be responsible for taking care of God.
Think about what could have been going through Joseph’s mind. How can an imperfect man before a father to God? The one thing that I wonder about is what was it like for God to come to the Earth that he created as a defenseless baby.
Also, take time to reflect on the love that God has for all of us that he was willing to leave his throne in heaven and come to live among his creation. Most of all, worship God for the gift of his Son, the Lamb of God who would take away the sins of the world.
“Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord. -Luke 2:11”
4. Invite a Widow or a Struggling Family Over for Dinner:
Christmas can be a very lonely time for some. Be a light for Christ and invite over a widow, single person, or a family to share in a meal and fellowship. Go out of your way to make it a special time for them.
“Give proper recognition to those widows who are in need.-1 Timothy 5:2-4”
5. Be Jesus to Someone:
Be Jesus to someone who is in need and cannot pay you back. There are so many wonderful ministries and charities that you can support with either your time or money that reach out into the community to touch those who are desperately in need.
This could involve working in a soup kitchen, ringing bells for the Salvation Army, or any number of different things.
“The King will reply, I tell you the truth, whatever you did for the least of these brothers of mine, you did it to me.- Matthew 25:40”
6. Bring Christmas Cookies to Your Neighbors:
Another great way to love Christ at Christmas is to take a day and bake cookies for your neighbors. If you have kids, make it a fun time by having them help you decorate the cookies.
With each plate of cookies, include a Christmas card that has the true meaning of Christmas on it. Take the family and one by one drop off the cookies with your each of your neighbors. This can also be a great time to catch up with them and talk for a little while.
“The entire law is summed up in a single command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.- Galatians 5:14”
7. Celebrate Christmas:
Take time to dwell on the fact that God left His throne in heaven to come and live among his fallen creation. Also, reflect on the fact that God loves us so much that he would rather come to Earth as a defenseless baby to die on a cross 33 years later for your sins and mine.
He offers salvation to anyone who trusts Him for his or her salvation. That just amazes me that the Creator of the Universe loves His creation like that. Awesome!
“How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called the children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. -1 John 3:1”
8. Attend a Christmas Worship Service at Your Church:
One of the easiest ways to keep Christ in Christmas is to attend a worship service at your church. Many churches have candlelight services on Christmas Eve to celebrate our Savior’s birth.
Most churches also have children’s programs around Christmas. They are always worth the time to attend because you never know what a kid will do in front of a crowd.
“Come, let us bow down in worship, let us kneel before the Lord God our Maker. -Psalm 95:6”
9. Set Up a Nativity Scene:
A nativity scene can be a great way to remind yourself of Christ’s birth every time that you walk by. We set up our nativity scene in our living room so that it is in an area that we frequently pass through.
Take some time to think what it was actually like on that night. You have a young couple in love about to have a baby and they could not find any place to stay other than a manger.
Shepherds were minding their own business out in a field when all of a sudden angels appeared announcing the birth of the Messiah. The shepherds then go and worship the newborn Savior.
“This will be a sign to you: ‘You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger. -Luke 2:12”
10. Prepare a Birthday Cake for Jesus:
Another way to keep Christ at the center of your Christmas celebration is to make a cake for Jesus. Be sure to give thanks for all that Jesus has given to us before cutting into the cake. If you have young kids, sing happy birthday to Jesus.
“Amen! Praise and glory and wisdom and thanks and honor and power and strength be to our God for ever and ever. Amen!- Revelations 7:12”
The Christmas season can be crazy with all different kinds of demands on our time. If we are not careful, Christmas will be over before we know it and we will miss it.
Take time to reflect on Christ’s birth and the reason that he came to die on a Roman cross for your sins and mine. If you do not know Christ as your Savior, I urge you to put your faith in Him and ask Him to forgive you of your sins.
Prayer is a powerful tool, an act of talking or Communion with God, pouring out our hearts desires to Him. Prayer is the power house of marriage relationship, it brings couple together in humility with common purpose to worship and reference God in their lives.
It creates comfort and calmness with great assurance that with God, things will certainly be alright. No matter how long or short the prayer may be, it is still prayer, it becomes powerful when it’s regular with faith driven contents in a unified spirit.
“A family that pray together stay together” So, prayer is part of the growth of marriage and here we shall bow down our heads and join our hands together to pray for our marriages.
1. Prayer For The Couple ! Dear God,
Thank You for the gift of companionship. Thank You for seeing that it was not good for man to be alone and create for him a helper. Thank You for my husband/ wife! We ask Lord that you continue to bless our marriages!
Fulfill them in every way, You are so powerful and so creative that You could do more than we could ever do or think, so please Lord move through our marriages!
We pray that You should destroy the power and forces of the wicked one, frustrate their plans, strategies and rendered them powerless. We pray for our healing, restoration, financial peace, oneness, and grace to abound in our marriages in Jesus’ Holy name Amen!
2. Prayer For Home !Thank you for this life together, for the gift of our love, and the blessing of our marriage. We give you praise and thanks for the joy you’ve poured into our hearts through this bond of love we share.
Thank you for the contentment of family, and the happiness of our home. May we always treasure the experience of loving each other in this holy union. Help us to remain forever committed to our vows, the promises we made to each other, and to you, Lord.
We need your strength daily, Lord, as we live together with the goal of following, serving, and honoring you. Develop within us the character of your Son, Jesus, that we might love each other with the love he demonstrated—with patience, sacrifice, respect, understanding, honesty, forgiveness, and kindness.
Also bless our children to love and care about you, put your fear and wisdom in them to excel and protect them from all evil in life.
Allow our love for each other to be an example to other couples, may others seek to imitate our commitment to marriage and our dedication to God. And may others be inspired as they see the blessings we enjoy because of our faithfulness in marriage in Jesus name.
3. To Become Blessings To Our Neighbors And Brethren ! Help us oh Lord to always be a support to one another—a friend to listen and encourage, a refuge from the storm, a companion to lean on, and, most importantly, a warrior in prayer. Help us to be a blessing to our neighbors and fervent in serving the Lord.
Holy Spirit, guide us through the difficult moments of life and comfort us in our grief. May our lives together bring glory to you, our Savior, and testify of your love. In the name of Jesus we pray.
We must come to understand the facts that God cannot give a complete person you desire in marriage. He gives the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire.
This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience. Moreso, there is no perfect marriage and no ready made one. Marriage is hard work, which will need the spouse to volunteer to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. It’s imperatively important to focus and determine more on building the marriage together as this article will further help the couple to have a awesome experience in their marriage.1. Consolidate The Vow. This is where prioritisation of marriage comes in, you will need to show and work on a preference for the things that will make the marriage better year after year. It means prioritizing your spouse over everything and everyone, including the kids.
Putting your spouse above everything else does not mean that you put all your time and energy into your spouse and their needs. It does mean that you make sure that all the distractions don’t damage your marriage. It means thinking about your spouse often and considering their opinion when you are weighing a decision.
Prioritizing your spouse also means being unselfish. The selfless act of putting their feelings, needs, and well-being ahead of your own helps you to create a sense of “we,” where everything you do focuses on keeping the marriage healthy.
2. Away From Distractions. When it’s right, marriage can be a beautiful thing. But that doesn’t mean it’s challenges free. Even those that seem the happiest encounter their share of problems. It’s all the more reason to focus less on other couples and how green their grass must be and more on taking care of your own grass.
There are time when we are facing trial in relationship and find ourselves searching for answers. We desire to fix the situation and yet in the midst of it we struggle not to lose hope, become discouraged, or walk away feeling defeated. But sometimes a few words can be all it takes to encourage your heart and your spouse.
3. Building Purposefully. Model the kind of marriage that will make your children want to grow up to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives. Be your spouse’s biggest encourager, not his or her biggest critic. Always see the good and best part of your spouse. Be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who causes them cry. Enjoy the value of union as you celebrates your marriage anniversary.
4. Appreciate Each Other. As a married couple, part of the vow is to stick with your partner through the good and bad, but being married means more than simply staying together.
One of the most important roles of a spouse, husband or wife, is to light each other up; especially when things are hard. We all have hard time; days where nothing seems to go right.
Sometimes it is more than days. It is weeks or years of unemployment or illness or other difficulties that makes the couple feel overwhelmed, but they have to stick together. Always striving together to achieve success in all and this will turn strengthen their relationship and advance their union.
Couple will have the best results as they continue to be sincere, humble, considerate and appreciate each other in all things.
5. Remember The Value. Every marriage is great, beautiful, unique, priceless and special in its own respective ways. Place value on your union and keep appreciating each other for the opportunity to come together as husband and wife.
In light of this, the couple are supposedly to continuing to live and enjoy common purpose, interest and keep blending together for unity. They should enjoy combine aspirations, vision, goal and target to achieve the best for the fulfilment of the marriage.
Individualism in all must be gradually reduced to the nearest minimum, dwell with the spirit of the great and glorious future ahead.
6. Celebrate The Union. Marriage is worth celebrating! In the quest of couple longing for a healthy and secure marriage, they may have experienced so many things, ups and downs are synonymous with great marriage especially one that will last a lifetime.
Sometimes, they might have tried reading all the books, attended marriage seminars, and even counseling, but it may seems like those improvements only last a little while, and then everything goes back the way it used to be. Now feeling frustrated and lonely, and resigning to the fact that this marriage may not work properly.
But what if you could develop a long-term strategy for dealing with issues in the marriage as they arise? And what if, as a result, you had a relationship that was more open, honest, and loving than you ever imagined possible? Having a practical game plan in place would mean that you could finally feel relieved and optimistic about your marriage each and every day.
Marriage worth celebrating and appreciation to God for the journey so far, beautiful path and great results ahead. Therefore, Be positive in all, hold each other, with God all things are possible, and that means great success in marriage is equally possible.
“Incurring Debt Unnecessarily in your Marriage is a sign of bad financial management, it will further unnoticeably destroy so many other things”
In this post, I will not speak about joint account or common purse in marriage, but I want to shed more light on the attitudes of couples to money or income generally.
I have heard about so many couples daily praying and working harder to earn money, but amazingly they are engulfed in the habit of wasteful spending or lavishly.
And it posses danger to the relationship, although this can be traced to the background of the couple or other social influences. It is so sad to hear of many couples who are rich yesterday and today they are struggling to survive.
It will also be unfair to blame anyone for any misfortune when we are actually ignorant of what it takes to have a successful life with marriage.
But here, I resolve that things can progressively change for better, and this is the essence of this article. Therefore, standard must be set and positive decision must be jointly made by the couple to have a beautiful life in the marriage and these followings points on the marital financial lifestyle can be reset appropriately.
1. Set A Goal. One of the important things in marriage especially at the very beginning of the marriage through to progressive stage, couple should immediately set goals for both short and long term, that which they wanted to achieve in and with their marriage.
Goal will prompt the couple to be cautious with their income if it’s truly pursued. Goal will also allow the couple to be focused with reduced distractions, and will help them to concentrate on how to spend their money together. Living a debt free life will afford you of been a discipline and focused couple.2. Live On Your Income. Believe in your income at present, it can work wonders if you are not living above it. Allow your income to check mate and caution your expenses. If possible desist from buying things on credit. Maintain a normal, humble life style, so you can live your life not based on assumption but real with peace of mind. Don’t always judge your life by the standard of living and lifestyle of other couples around you.
“But godliness with contentment is great gain.-1 Timothy 6:6”. Learn to appreciate your income no matter how much, knowing that progress will be evident as time goes on.
3. Plan For Future. This is very crucial in marriage relationship, the adage goes on ” if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail” Adequate planning for the future can be an asset since future is always a misery to the human race. The fear of uncertainty must not rule in the marriage, but confidence and faith in God.
The fact will still remains that tomorrow is not certain and so you must plan adequately for the future in managing your income wisely.
No one has ever thought that the whole world will experience economy shut down because of the pandemic. You must have a financial back up to fall on at the time of crises in the marriage. Security of future with income is important from now.
4. Live Consciously. Be aware that life is precious when you are conscious of the fact that your marriage is exclusively yours. There’s no sense in wishing good luck when the couples are already doing things wrongly. The pattern of your lifestyle should not pose danger to the future of your life and marriage, you may not be able to bear the pain and agony of carelessness.
Life has no duplicate, be sensitive to your spouse’s and children’s health, make sure you do all that is needful as quick as you can to avert danger that may possibly incurred unnecessary spending. Live consciously well today to enjoy tomorrow.
5. Save More, Spend Less. This is a cardinal point in lasting marriage, financial success is a choice, do it right it will work, do it wrongly it will backfire. Get prepare for the reality of life, migrate from spending couple to saving couple, save more to enjoy more of the benefits that life offers.
Stop buy things that are not necessary for now, but only the important ones, buy things that are needed for now and suspend others. Curtail your expenses, invest more on profit yielding projects and investments.
Attend seminars on creating a productive lifestyle, talk to financial experts and seek credible counseling. Work together as a team- couple to realise the dream of your beautiful marriage, keep on saving for great life ahead. Finally, take this lesson:
Solid, lasting, and trusting relationships are built on a certain foundations. Couples that make it through the long haul instinctively know they have the trust of their partners, because they have worked hard to incorporate these following virtues into their relationships.
1. Virtue of Honesty. Honesty doesn’t necessarily mean brutal frankness at every turn, but it does require facing even uncomfortable moments head-on, answering questions truthfully, avoiding the keeping of secrets, and sharing important information with one another. When honesty forms the foundation of a relationship, couples tend to feel safer, happier, and more fulfilled. Partners who want their relationships to go the distance work hard to maintain the trust they’ve developed together. Honesty is a virtue, but it isn’t always easy to maintain. There are situations that can tempt you or your partner to break the trust you’ve established.
2. Virtue of Transparency. Nearly everyone want a calm and loving relationship, but this may not come without challenges if the couple are not imbibing the culture of openness virtually in all aspects of their lives. It is not saying the truth in all matters only, but living the life of absolute truth being evident in all areas of lives. Keeping no secret as far as you can.
3. Virtue of Honor. Everyone in relationship deserve esteem and respect, blending with each other in mutual love should continuously promoting respect for each other, this doesn’t mean that things will not mixed up sometimes, but it’s quickly put under control. Honor will afford you of not want to lose the diginty of your marriage. You also want your children to grow in emulating your marriage and have a better life in future.
4. Virtue of Continuity. The beauty of every tree is the seed, and this is always conserves for continuity of the tree. Marriage relationship is beautiful when you accept the fact that your lives, love as a couple will continue to live on in the lives of your children or adopted children as it may be. The consciousness of this fact should encourage couple to live impactfully. Hence, your real self worth is projected in the lives of others that are connected directly to your beautiful life.
The holiday season seems to be prime time for wrestling with greed. It’s strange that the one time of year we want our kids to be thankful is the exact time of year that ungratefulness can creep in. Over and over in my inbox I see the question, “How do I keep my kids from being so greedy or ungrateful this Christmas? How do I teach them to have an attitude of gratitude? “
Honestly, it’s a fair question. When I was a kid, we were tempted and even taunted by the latest toys or coolest clothes during commercials on TV. Of course, the build up near Christmas was intense and I can honestly remember going to bed on Christmas night completely exhausted from opening that mountain of presents, yet totally ungrateful because of all the things I “thought” I still wanted.
Kids today face that same struggle growing up, plus more. They see ads in nearly every corner of the earth, on computers and/or tablets, and the competition among friends continues to increase the stakes. The truth is, even if we get rid of the TV, an attitude of gratitude can be a challenge to develop.
But it doesn’t mean that we have to give in. We can raise truly thankful kids despite the me-first culture we live in. Like everything, the answer lies in getting to the root of their heart condition. Let me suggest several proactive ways to help!
1. Be an example of thankfulness instead of desire.
Trust me, I don’t want to start with this one any more than you do. BUT, this is indeed the biggest key to helping our kids become truly grateful no matter what they have or experience. As a parent, if I am constantly seeking more or talking about what I will buy “if I win the lottery,” When I personally struggle to have an attitude of gratitude, I am sending a clear message to my kids that I don’t believe I have enough. It’s easy for our kids to pick up on this and begin to feel the same way. We need to practice taming the tongue and speaking thankful words.
I have a friend who models the positive of this so very well. She is so thankful that it is impossible not to notice. If you spend an hour with her, you will hear her verbally give thanks for something – probably many things. She is thankful for rainy weather even when it ruins a parade. When her children were in a car accident, the first thing out of her mouth was an attitude of gratitude that no one was hurt. While most of us would indeed be thankful for that, we generally tend to panic first and we rarely refrain from rehearsing the negative parts of the accident. My friend did.
It probably won’t come as a surprise to you to learn that when I met her mom a few years later, I saw the same exact behavior. No wonder she was so easily appreciative and even grateful in difficult or unwanted things. She had lived a lifetime seeing and practicing that attitude.
2. Teach kids HOW to be thankful.
This seems obvious, but what specific steps are you taking to teach this skill today? If you are like me, the answer is nothing. For the most part we kind of make the assumption that our kids know HOW to be thankful. We assume that they were born with this beautiful spirit. So yeah, not so much. Kids are selfish. Having an attitude of gratitude is having the ability to see past yourself. This means we are going to need to do some teaching here if our kids are actually going to become thankful.
First, let’s help them phrase and rephrase thankful statements. Instead of having your child say thank you to Aunt Melda for the gift, help them come up with a sentence that truly expresses thankfulness. For example, “Aunt Melda, thank you so much for the LEGO set. It will be so much fun to build a new spaceship.” We often assume kids can just do this on their own, but they can’t. When we help them we give them the tools to develop these sentences on their own as they grow.
The same thing goes for rephrasing ungrateful comments. If your child is disappointed that the soccer game is canceled, teach him to phrase a comment that shows an attitude of gratitude. Even if it’s hard. For example, “I’m thankful that God sends rain and that we aren’t in a drought.” Of course you feel disappointment, but if you rehearse that disappointment over and over again, it only gets worse. Philippians 4:8 tells us to think on things that are true, lovely, right, pure and praise-worthy. That’s the example we want to give our kids.
3. Teach the difference between wants and needs.
I know it sounds silly, but most kids do not understand this. In fact, even adults today are confused about this topic. There are things we need and things we want. They are not the same. On the most basic level, we need to teach our kids that needs are things you can’t live without such as water, food, clothing, and shelter. We also need to make sure they understand that while we need clothes, brand name or even brand new clothes are actually in the “want” category.
When she was young, my daughter told me that she NEEDED to have a particular horse book for Christmas. I love that she wanted books for Christmas, but I had to stop myself and make sure to correct her speech. I told her that she WANTED the book and that it didn’t qualify as a need and then I made her correct her statement. At age 11, she was none too thrilled to be parroting my new statement back to her, but she got the point. We have to be careful what we say because words turn into beliefs and they change who we are!
4. Teach kids to wait.
Probably one of the hardest lessons is the one that requires us to wait. However, the waiting is crucial for cultivating an attitude of gratitude in the hearts of our kids. If they walk into the store and see something they want, they need to learn to delay that gratification. As adults, buying what we want the minute we see it always has negative effects, whether that is financial trouble (debt), buyer’s remorse, or even a lack of true satisfaction. There is something so wonderful about seeing something you need and saving up for it. We’ve got to teach our kids these crucial habits.
One way I do this is to have a “no asking zone” in all stores. They are NEVER permitted to ask me to buy something. (Of course they don’t always follow this rule.) When they see something they want in a store, I encourage them to put it on a wish list. I keep a file in Evernote on my phone. We also keep lists on Amazon. Putting the item on a list gives them a sense of satisfaction. It’s not a “no.” It’s now a possibility.
As my kids have gotten older they have noticed that many things get deleted from the wish list because they simply don’t really want that item anymore. This is the perfect opportunity to show them how the item would have been a wasted purchase if we had bought it that first day. As an added bonus, the kids are ready to give a list when grandparents ask them for one at Christmas time.
5. Learn about true poverty.
No, I don’t mean that you should tell them to eat their dinner because kids in Ethiopia are starving. But this brings up a good point. If your child can’t be grateful for what is served for dinner, perhaps it’s because they don’t really understand the true poverty of so many people and children who live in this world. Do some research and find a good YouTube video that will help make poverty come to life. This activity will be good for parents and kids, as it’s easy for us to forget! Learning about true poverty will encourage an attitude of gratitude for all they’be been given.
6. Teach them what God’s Word says.
I saved this for last, not because it’s the least important, but because I wanted to leave you with this on the front of your mind. The truth is, we can talk until we are blue in the face, but real lasting change in our kids comes from their relationship with Christ. When our kids are no longer under our feet, we want them to still be grateful. Telling them to do it without giving them a good reason will be pretty useless. As Christians, we have a great reason to cultivate and attitude of gratitude. In fact, we have so many reasons that we probably don’t even know.
As I began to study this topic of gratefulness, thankfulness, or “contentment” with my kids, what I found was an arsenal of information and help in God’s Word. That shouldn’t surprise us, huh? God always has the answers in His Word! I would encourage you to sit down and really study this topic with your family.
This message from our father holiness preacher speaks on make-up, Jewellery, Wigs ad bleached your skin. Below are the details of what he said.
There are two places in the whole Bible where references were made to painting of face, only two places, and the two places are bad. One of the places talked about Jezebel. How many of you will name your daughter Jezebel?
2 Kings 9:30, “When Jehu had come to Jezreel, Jezebel heard of it; and she painted her eyes, and adorned her head, and looked out at the window.”
The day Jezebel was going to die, she did make up properly, painted her face, dented her face with jewelries, but at the end of the day, dog ate her.
The second place is in Jeremiah 4:29-30 where God was speaking in anger to daughters of Zion, He says, “when I make up my mind to deal with you, you can paint your face as you like, it is not going to deliver you.” Read it, you have your Bible to read. Those are the only two places I found, and they are terrible references. Now as far as am concerned, it is up to you to decide how you want to look, you want to make up, you want to paint yourself, you are at liberty. But low it that if you make up, you the great grand daughter of Jezebel. If for any reason whatsoever God decides not to allow you to enter heaven, sorry o.
The point I am making is this, nobody ever add sugar to honey. Have you seen anybody adding sugar to honey? Anytime you see a piece of furniture that is painted, wooden furniture that is painted, the wood is inferior.
When the wood is ebony, nobody paints it, no no no. I think children of God should realise they are precious enough, by the special grace of God and by the shed blood of Jesus Christ. They are honey, they don’t need sugar. We are already made wonderfully by God. Some people go about in the name of fashion wearing wigs. I a not being judgemental at all.
This is not law, there is no where in the Bible which says if you wear wigs, you can’t make it to heaven. But this hair that you are wearing, from whose head was it cut? From goat, cow, demons or where was it cut off before you fix?
Do you know who was the original owner of the hair? Do you know what kind of evil is in that hair? Your head and hairs is the most important part of your body, so let no evil things touches your head and hairs. Psalms 23:5, “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil. My cup runs over.”
Thou anointed my head with oil. May we live in the daily enjoyment of this blessing, receiving a fresh anointing for every day’s duties.
Every Christian is a priest, but he cannot execute the priestly office without unction, and hence we must go day by day to God that we may have our heads anointed with oil.
A priest without oil misses the chief qualification for his office, and the Christian priest lacks his chief fitness for service when he is devoid of new grace from on high.
My question, is it your head or wig, weavon and attachment that is anointed? Things are so bad now that some sisters comes for ordination with wigs on their head. I always asked them, which one do you want me to anoint, the wig or the head?
I have not been legalistic, I have not said thou shall not wear wig, weavon or attachment but I am only talking to the daughters Zion, children of God. I read something in the book of Revelation. Revelation 7:1-3, “After this, I saw four angels standing at the four corners of the earth, holding the four winds of the earth, so that no wind would blow on the earth, or on the sea, or on any tree. I saw another angel ascend from the sunrise, having the seal of the living God. He cried with a loud voice to the four angels to whom it was given to harm the earth and the sea, saying, “Don’t harm the earth, neither the sea, nor the trees, until we have sealed the bondservants of our God on their foreheads”.
In the above scriptures, some angels were sent from heaven to deal with the inhabitants of the world, after the rapture, the Bible says, “I heard the Almighty God said, before you begin to deal with people, let me mark them, let me seal them on their forehead, so that we know those that the bullet should not hit”.
What we wear matters. What we eat matter as a true child of God. Why do you think the army wear uniforms? It is so that they will not accidentally shoot their own members.
Can God recognize you at a glance, that is, as a child of God? Some people say it does not matter, and that what is inside is what is important, I agree with the last part, but what is inside will show outside. it will show on the outside, it will show, don’t let anybody deceive you. Galatians 6:7-8, “Don’t be deceived. God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption. But he who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.”
When I became General Overseer, I brought a group of teachers to come and teach in the Bible College and they began to teach series of things I did not bargain for. They were teaching that God is not interested in the outside, He is interested in the inside, and they this man (the G. O.) is legalistic, he is too strict. So I went to Oyingbo market to buy two oranges, one ripe and the other green all over. My Bible students were beginning to turn to rebels and God gave me wisdom, so I stood before the class and I said, which of this oranges will you take if I ask you to pick one?
They all pointed at the yellow and ripe one, and I said why? They said because that one is going to be the sweeter one. How do you know when you have not seen the inside? They all said what is inside the orange portrays and shows what is reflecting outside. An orange is sweet from the appearance because its inside is sweet and vice versa to unripe oranges. It was at this point I passed the real message to his people and the Holy Spirit gave them change of heart afterwards.
People of God, God cannot be mocked, you cannot begin to tell people that God only dwells in the heart of man, seeks the heart alone and not the facial appearance, It is A LIE FROM THE PIT OF HELL. What is outside is very important because from what is outside shows what is inside.
You cannot sit on the fence, it either you are cold or hot. Say no to the things of the world and FASHION OF HELL. Why not be and remain the way God created you? Why are you adding to what God has created? In other words, you are telling God that, “God ooh, see you are senseless to have created me this way I am, I am going to recreate myself back with make ups, God forbid. Genesis 1:26-27, “God said, “Let’s make man in our image, after our likeness. God created man in his own image. In God’s image he created him; male and female he created them.”
Genesis 2:7, “Yahweh God formed man from the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.”
May you not be an enemy of God in Jesus name Amen. James 4:4, “You adulterers and adulteresses, don’t you know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.”
Therefore brethren, let your dressing be in modest apparell, not of painting of face or using of gold, necklaces or earrings, but of pure heart, shamefacedness and modesty (1Timothy 2:9).
Have you considered Jezebel in the Bible? She was a perfect example of the usage of all these things, and she made all these things of demonic value. May you not be among her descendants in Jesus mighty name. Let your watchword be ”WORLDLINESS FORBIDDEN.” Instead of the world copying good things from us (believers), we the believers are the one copying bad things from the world. Very shameful and pathetic.
Remember, “friendliness with the world equals to enmity with God (James 4:4)
Beware of the end time vices and change your ways now before it becomes too late for you.
Now that you’ve said, “I do,” you’re probably interested in learning how you can be the best wife possible to the man God has placed in your life.
You’re looking for some advice because being a good and Godly wife isn’t as easy as it seems.
Maybe you’re a newlywed or maybe you’ve been married for several years. Whatever the case, you’re interested in how you can improve yourself and strengthen your marriage.
You may be wondering what does my husband need from me and how can I provide those things to him?
Men, like women, want to know that their spouse supports them, respects them, and is genuinely interested in their daily life happenings. Just to name a few.
We are going to focus on seven topics that will cover some great qualities of a loving supportive wife. This is not a complete list, but it’s a good start and can have the biggest impact on your marriage.
1. Respect Your Husband :
I placed this topic first because in my opinion, if you do not respect your husband then all of the other topics we cover will be a moot point. What do we mean by RESPECT?
Praise and compliment your husband in front of family and friends! Nothing infuriates me more than to be in the same room with a wife that constantly insults her husband (either in front of him or behind his back). This is incredibly disrespectful and it actually makes the wife look bad and not the husband!
Tell your husband you respect him through words and texts. He needs to hear your affirming words.
Emerson Eggerichs, the author of Love and Respect, writes, “Women need love. Men need respect. It’s as simple and as complicated as that.”
Granted, both women AND men require respect and love from the other. However, many surveys have concluded that men would rather feel unloved than disrespected and inadequate.
Think about that.
2. Give Him the Benefit of a Doubt (Trust):
This is a big one, too. Give him the benefit of a doubt. Husbands want to be trusted!I’ll be the first to admit that my mind can get carried away….far far away.
But if you STOP, and think about the situation logically, you will most likely come back to reality and realize you’ve been overreacting with your thoughts.
Acting as though you don’t trust your husband is tiring, gets old, and quite frankly, leaves you coming across as insecure and negative. Not a good quality, ladies.
3. Don’t be a Hypocrite:
Don’t set high expectations for him and not yourself. Don’t get caught up in “what can my husband do for me that will make me look good to others.” That’s just plain selfish.
Don’t expect him to make your coffee in the mornings, and then not do anything for him.
Don’t expect him to better himself physically, financially, etc., and then you don’t do the same.
In short, be what you expect your husband to be. That’s not too much to ask is it?
4. Accept Him As-Is :
If you married a man with a notion that you were going to change him, that’s a huge mistake that you’ll carry on your shoulders for the duration of the marriage.
Accept him as-is just like you would want him to accept you as-is. His style is unique. His thought processes are unique. His habits are unique. If you knew these things about him pre-marriage, and you weren’t a fan of any of them, then that’s on you if you choose to marry him.
Granted, some things can be discussed and worked out! Nobody wants to see dirty clothes all over the bathroom floor. But what I’m referring to goes much deeper than this.
Andrea Miller, author of Radical Acceptance: The Secret of Happy, Lasting Love, writes “individuals who learn to radically accept their spouse and grow together, despite it all, end up having longer and happier marriages.”
“He knows his weaknesses. But he needs you to admire his strengths, not draw attention to his weaknesses. Your husband needs your admiration like you to need his love.” Get Your Copy Now !
5. Nagging will get you NOTHING
Nagging is nothing more than trying to control him. Over time, this will create a deaf ear and loss of interest. Instead, communicate clearly and calmly if there are some items you’d like his assistance with. Sometimes, people just need a reminder especially if they are working full time, taking kids back and forth to sports, gym class, or have a second job.
6. Give him Compliments:
Men love compliments, too! Say things like: You look nice. You did a great job. I love your smile. You do your job very well. The yard looks great. You’re a great dad. You’re a great husband. I admire you.
Make sure the compliment is genuine and say it with a smile. Giving Steve compliments is so easy for me, probably because he makes it easy for me to compliment him!
7. Physical Intimacy:
Do we need to discuss this? Well, in case you haven’t heard…men want and need physical intimacy and lots of it. Their needs tend to be more physical and visual (bring out the lingerie ladies) and we tend to have more of an emotional connection and intimacy need preceding the physical aspect.
The bottom line is this:
A husband and wife should communicate their needs with each other. After all, this part of the marriage is just as important as all the other aspects of a great marriage.
Final Thoughts on Qualities of a Good Wife
Those are my personal top seven qualities of a good wife. There are many other qualities to consider. Some of these qualities may come naturally to us. Some of these qualities will require some practice.
What it boils down to are communication and commitment. Ask him what you can do to better meet his needs. Then make a personal commitment to follow through.
There is nothing more important to me than treating Steve with my utmost love and respect.
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